In this era, where a lot of people are becoming more and more indifferent towards one another, kindness is coming at an expensive price. It is not often that you see people showing kindness towards others. BUT. . .I found this video recently where there was a prepared set of different videos to prove that wrong. Throughout the video, you can watch Santa providing warm clothes to homeless people or older woman praising stranger for doing cool tricks with skateboard and many others. As always I hope this afflicts the Caring Catalyst in you that by merely watching the video, you will realize that kindness in humanity hasn’t been lost completely and there are still people out there ready to show acts of kindness not only to their close ones, but also to any random strangers and make them emotional or even cry by their acts of kindness. THAT it’ll inspire you to bring a special warmth to Another’s CHILL. . .Enjoy watching the video. . .
AGE(LESS)
In the past couple of days I have been reminded
YOUR BIRTHDAY IS COMING UP
and
MAN, YOU’RE GETTING OLD. . .
Luckily
I’ve never been much about
(PERSONAL–MY OWN) Birthdays
and even less about
GETTING OLD
albeit I’m not all that crazy
feeling/seeing/experiencing
the many different ways
the body sneakingly
betrays
when
out of nowhere came
T H I S:
“I asked an elderly man once what it was like to be old and to know the majority of his life was behind him. He told me that he has been the same age his entire life. He said the voice inside of his head had never aged. He has always just been the same boy. His mother’s son. He had always wondered when he would grow up and be an old man. He said he watched his body age and his faculties dull but the person he is inside never got tired. Never aged. Never changed.
Our spirits are eternal. Our souls are forever. The next time you encounter an elderly person, look at them and know they are still a child, just as you are still a child and children will always need love, attention and purpose.”
~ Author unknown & Photography by Rita French
A CALENDAR
WILL NEVER MAKE YOU OLDER
only your
FRAMED IN MIND
can do that. . .
One of the greatest things
hospice has taught me
c o n t i n u o u s l y
since I began
waaaaaaay back a few calendar pages ago in
1994
is out of all the things
L I F E
can take from you
as it
e x t r a c t s
from you
EVEN ON A DEATH BED
my love
and my ability to kindly share it
(especially to share IT)
T H I S
is what it means
not to get older
but become more
much more than an
AGE(LESS)
So I’m just not looking forward to having a few more
Birthday Candles lit
but blowing a few more
o u t. . .
FUNNY BUSINESS
A few years ago I became a
C L L
. . .that’s right,
a real bonafide
CERTIFIED LAUGHTER LEADER
even though
LAUGHING
and attempting to make people
H A P P Y(IER)
has been a life long pursuit of mine. . .
enter the infamous JOYOLOGIST
STEVE WILSON and his beautiful bride, Pamela
I attended their WORLD LAUGHTER TOUR
Steve Wilson| Psychologist | The Joyologist | Cheerman of the Bored
Director-National Humor Month
http://www.worldlaughtertour.com
http://www.humormonth.com
http://www.stevewilson.com
http://www.laughterfoundation.org
Skype: s_h_wilson
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pages/World-Laughter-Tour/57984062492
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stevehwilson
Twitter: (@joyologist)
Phone: 614-855-4733
Blog: http://www.laughterandhumor.blogspot.comand it was literally
LIFE CHANGING. . .
I have had the privilege/pleasure of actually hosting several LAUGHTER SESSIONS and have shared some of those techniques in several of the presentations I do and believe me, no pun intended. . .
THIS IS NO FUNNY BUSINESS,
in fact the one simple-start-using-it-at-this-very-second-give-a-away
IS FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT. . .
That’s right, even fake laughing for a mere 15-30 seconds gives you all of the health benefits of actually laughing as if you were watching your favorite comedy or having a laughfest with your friends. . .
In fact, SMILING has the same kind of benefits, especially when you feel the least like cracking a smile. . .
and yet even FAKE SMILING opens wide those big Carotid arteries that supply the head and neck with oxygenated blood and instantly changes your mood and demeanor. . .
FUNNY BUSINESSThis past Sunday, Steve DIRECT MESSAGED me the image belowIt made me take a look at a pile of books I had in a corner section of the library I have in my basement and WHAAAAAAA-LAAAAAAAA I found thisLord Is a Whisper at Midnight https://a.co/d/bW9xGyHbook that I hadn’t opened in a while but slid in a chair on a rainy afternoon and let it READ ME as much as I pursued it. . .
FUNNY BUSINESS
I was COLOR BLINDED no more and the smiles weren’t fakeTHANK YOU, STEVE WILSON
for HOW-TO
that made the WANT-TO
feel kind of
F U N N Y
naturally. . .
A Laugh on ME
It was a while ago
so I can technically be let off the hook;
I was a student pastor
at Mt. Moriah Christian Church
in a little blip on the map
called Butler, Kentucky. . .
It was a warm Sunday morning and someone
had taken the trouble to pick a
magnificent bunch of flowers
and arrange them in a beautiful vase
on top of the altar. . .
In my attempt to not only bring people’s attention to it,
but also comment with a
‘Grateful Heart’
I inadvertently told the bold group of worshipers
“This is one of the most beautiful CENTERFOLDS I’d ever seen. . .”
The Church Organist has nearly recovered from that faux pas
. . .Nearly 40 years later, I’m still getting remarks
for not saying CENTERPIECES. . .
Ohhhhhhhhh, it’s not been the only time. . .
There’s been malfunctioned zippers. . .
There’s been me introducing my brand new wife with my ex-wife’s name. . .
There’s been botched toasts. . .
There’s been misspellings in bulletins and newsletters. . .
There’s been wadder leaks and me getting more wet than the kids I baptized. . .
There’s been plenty of times I’ve been laughed A T
but not as many times as I have actually
LAUGHED AT
m y s e l f. . .
Y O U ?
Well. . .
there’s some good news
if you’ve actually had a good
ga-faw
at your own expense. . .
There’s two distinct studies that have shown that people
who have the ability to laugh at themselves
displayed positive and desirable qualities. . .
The first of these studies
conducted by Ursula Beerman
and Willibald Ruch
show that people who know how to laugh at themselves
tend to be more cheerful
and less serious
than those who remain solemn. . .
The second study
conducted by Colette Option, Julian Barling, and Nick Turner
found that in the workplace,
leaders who are able to laugh at themselves
and not at their colleagues
were viewed as more
l i k a b l e
c a r i n g
and t r u s t w o r t h y. . .
M O R E
the studies
shows a surprising link between the ability to laugh at yourself
and l e a d e r s h i p potential
In essence. . .
The Researchers hypothesized
that when a leader
joked about themselves
in a critical way
people would view them as someone who values jokes
and shows concerns for others. . .
“We chose humor as a mechanism through which leaders express their concern for others (vs. the self) because of the potential for humor to be both a weapon to harm others and a tool to build relationships,” the Researchers wrote.
“By making fun of themselves the leaders showed disregard for the difference in status between them and their workers and this was viewed as concern for others.”
The study ultimately concluded,
The Leader who poked fun at themselves was rated as more trustworthy and a better Leader
There’s so many,
m a n y
ways to be a
C A R I N G C A T A L Y S T
but being able to not just
s m i l e
at yourself
but actually
laugh A T
l a u g h w i t h others
at yourself
is absolutely one of the most powerful
and
fun ways. . .
The World is in
d e s p e r a t e
need of a laugh. . .
give’em a reason
and throw in a few smiles
for free
just for memory’s sake
for years down the road. . .
It’s one beautiful
C E N T E R F O L D
that’ll always be in
b l o o m
B E S I D E S
U s u a l l y
when you give the World
a reason to smile
I T W I L L
R E M E M B E R i n g
To the Living
I am Gone
To the Sorrowful
I’ll never return
To the Angry
I was cheated
To the Faithful
I’ve never left
I can’t be seen
but I can still hear
I can’t speak
but I can still listen
so the next time you stand on a shore gazing at a beautiful sea
or look upon flowers to admire their simplicity
R E M E M B E R M E
in your heart
of the times we fought
the times we cried
the times we laughed
the times we loved
Because if you always think of me
I WILL HAVE NEVER GONE
When do words become more than words?
. . .when they become
a c t i o n s
DAVE & BUSTERS
in Westlake, Ohio
did just that
a couple of weeks ago.
Two of their employees have recently died.
T H E Y
sent condolences.
T H E Y
sent flowers.
T H E Y
bought two benches
with the individuals names and very special sentiments on them
and put them in a very nice garden area right in front of their entrance
T H E Y
invited the members of their families
and their employees to come to
A Celebration Service
in their honors
before work
to REMEMBER
“Anytime we come together to remember, it’s never long enough. . . “
I began
“It could be around a holiday table
It could be outback at a family reunion
It could be on a sunny morning before work, like this
but anytime we come together to remember–
it’s never long enough. . . .”
“. . .but you haven’t come here to remember, have you?
You’ve come here to be powerfully reminded that you haven’t come here to begin
only continue the celebrations of these two lives
in your lives
for the rest of your lives. . . .”
and then I asked one of the most powerful
ever hard to answer question
that could ever be asked at
any Celebration service:
“WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE STORY?”
And then the stories of these two lives,
i n t e r m i n g l i n g l y
and were told
RE-MEMBERED
Put back together again
one after another
intermixed with tears
and laughter
and smiles
I reminded them:
“IT’S NOT ONE THING”
. . .that the cliche
A PICTURE IS WORTH A THOUSAND WORDS
is a l i e
a million, maybe, but not a mere 1000.
I reminded them:
“BUT YOU DON’T NEED A PHOTOGRAPH, DO YOU ?
I just need to say their names. . .
and it’s not a moment
it’s not a memory
it’s not an event
or an occasion
it’s a cascade of all of those things
water falling down over them
shouting for their attention.
DAVE & BUSTER’S
made sure
to show these families and friends
that the only thing more powerful than memories
is the love that makes them
everything they were
everything they are
everything they will forever be
by bringing people together
and making ongoing
new memories
in the names
of those
we came
to celebrate. . .
and what better way to do that?
What Else?
A BRUNCH!
DAVE & BUSTER’S
are Caring Catalyst’s
Who Cares
What Matters
by showing as long as we think of
T H E M
T H E Y
are never gone