D O E S I T M A T T E R ?
Well, apparently the
Science of Happily Ever After
has gone well over and under the microscope–literally–and the examination table.
In her article,
MASTER OF LOVE,
author, Emily Smith reveals that of all the couples that get married,
only THREE in TEN remain in healthy, happy marriages.
W O W . . .
that’ll sour the Chocolate Heart well before Valentine’s Day.
Has it come to T H I S:
A team of Researchers, Scientists actually hooked up couples to electrodes and asked the couples to speak about their relationship, how they met, a major conflict they were facing together, and a positive memory. As they spoke, these electrodes measured blood flow, heart rates, and how much sweat they actually produced…then the Researchers sent these folks home and followed up on them SIX YEARS LATER. . .
Forget about the THREE out of TEN formula. . .
Do you know what the two most powerful characteristics they found to long-lasting relationships?
K I N D N E S S
G E N E R O S I T Y
In most marriages,
T H E Y
concluded, levels of satisfaction drop dramatically within the first few years together;
BUT AMONG COUPLES WHO NOT ONLY ENDURE, BUT LIVE HAPPILY TOGETHER FOR YEARS AND YEARS, THE SPIRIT OF KINDNESS AND GENEROSITY GUIDES THEM FORWARD!
What’s T H A T tell you?
Being in a committed relationship now
(FOR A DO-OVER)
for nearly 32 years,
with Mt Everest highs and the darkest of Abyss lows
over roads that would have begged for ruts and dust,
they were so desolate,
I, like many others,
can prove to you what was implied but not measured
with this or any study:
K I N D N E S S A N D GENEROSITY
DO NOT WORK–E V E R–
o n c e . . .
Kindness and Generosity have to be consistently
I’m one of the few people known to all generations of all faiths who actually doesn’t like
the Story of the Good Samaritan. . .
A guy gets thrashed and everyone avoids him from the Commoner to the most highly religious except, well, except for the lowest of the low scum of the earth, who took time to at least stop and help the man, got him patched up and then took him to a hostel where he could rehab; actually paid in advance and told the innkeeper, if it wasn’t enough, he’d settle up with him the next time he came back into town. . .
What’s not to like?
Well, here’s something that the Social Scientists don’t have to Electrode you up for:
ANYONE CAN DO THAT–
Be a Good Samaritan–
O N C E . . .
but what about a thousand and O N C E times
or a Billion,
a Ga-Zillion and O N C E times?
Who would have thought that
C O N S I S T E N T L Y
being Kind and Generous
would be the key components for a long-lasting-happily-ever-after relationship?
Hmmmmmmmm of the Day:
Maybe if we T H O U G H T
l e s s
and practiced Kindness and Generosity
more. . .
you do the research: