If our Lives are like Books
We no doubt have many
LINES
PARAGRAPHS
PAGES
CHAPTERS
LARGE SECTIONS
we would rip out
So others would never see them
and we just might be able to forget them
b u t
if we could just learn from our mistakes
(especially the ones we make repeatedly)
we just might find
that we have no regrets
but some
MONUMENTAL MEMORIES. . .
THE OPPOSITE GAME
THERE ARE NO WORDS. . .
we say
and then. . .
All we do is use
w O r D s
to say
THERE ARE NO WORDS. . .
We’re walking
talking
DICTIONARIES
not so much looking for definitions
as for real, living
M e A n I n G s
and dare we try
GIVING THEM
Wait. . What. . . ?
Did we just play
THE OPPOSITE GAME
(or have we never stopped)
H A L T
Dave is a friend of mine from Nacogdoches, Texas. He owns and operates
Galleria Z, a Custom Picture Framing and Artful gifts decor shop. He recently posted the following story:
Most everyone knows this word, but it also functions as an acronym that has some helpful wisdom. A man I’ve gotten to know comes in my shop from time-to-time seeking small jobs to make a little money but now more often just to talk. He has numerous life challenges including mental illness and alcohol dependency. He got sober a couple of months ago and says he’s been going to AA some. He’s also been fighting to find stable/regular employment. Every day is a battle for him. Anyhow, I’ve talked to him about this notable AA acronym. For those who don’t know, it’s meant to advise not to get too Hungry, too Angry, too Lonely, too Tired. This can be good advice for anyone, but for an alcoholic those things can be triggers for a relapse. Anyhow, I gave it to him today when he came in my shop. He was most appreciative and said he would hang it on the wall in his bedroom to help him keep his recovery top-of-mind.
W H Y
As I read Dave’s brief story and saw the H, the A, the L, the T it kind of rang a bell in me that sounded more like a siren on a dark night that promised no sleep; and I didn’t know if all of the sudden the sign was shaking or I was. . .
I won’t give you the statistics or the graphs; I won’t offer up the “You better watch out’s” or “Something’s got to be done’s” because we all know that we are way beyond all of that.
T H I S
is more than just some horrible pandemic. This is a tsunami wave that’s left no one dry and it just keeps washing up on shore after shore forever changing geographical landscapes; gashing out grave sites that look more like grotesquely unhealable wounds instead of serene places of rest. We have all be infected.
Just letters. . .
H
A
L
T
until they take on a deeper meaning
much more than any acronym
may be ever has. . .
MAYBE
it’s a sincere way to live a balanced life:
“. . .It’s meant to advise not to get too Hungry, too Angry, too Lonely, too Tired. This can be good advice for anyone. . .”
For now
I’m not so much inviting you
to bow your head
close your eyes
fold your hands
and bring your voice to a whisper
so much as to
OPEN YOUR EYES
HOLD UP YOUR HEAD
RAISE YOUR HANDS
AND SHOUT OUT:
a m e n
and
A M E N
THE VIDEO YOU WON’T WATCH BUT SHOULD
THIS IS ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT/HELPFUL/INSIGHTFUL MONDAY BLOG VIDEO’S I HAVE EVER POSTED IN THE PAST SEVEN YEARS AND THERE’S A REALLY GOOD CHANCE YOU WILL NEVER WATCH IT, BUT SHOULD
THE MOST IMPORTANT 10 1/2 minutes you can spend for this entire year and the rest of your life. . .
(Or NOT; YOU can go on, not connecting and worrying and fretting AD NAUSEAM)
SPECTACULAR LIFE
Speech by Robin Williams. All footage is from Robin Williams Movies, in this case (It’s from the movie Jack (1996). ——–
You know, as we come to the end of this phase of our life, we find ourselves trying to remember the good times and trying to forget the bad times, and we find ourselves thinking about the future. We start to worry , thinking, “What am I gonna do? Where am I gonna be in ten years?” But I say to you, “Hey, look at me!” Please, don’t worry so much. Because in the end, none of us have very long on this Earth. Life is fleeting. And if you’re ever distressed, cast your eyes to the summer sky when the stars are strung across the velvety night. And when a shooting star streaks through the blackness, turning night into day… make a wish and think of me. Make your life spectacular. I know I did.
Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
Am I the only one
embarrassingly so
who has to sadly admit again
how I fail
to see just how
S P E C T A C U L A R
L I F E
I S. . .
Maybe it’s not so much
WHAT’LL TAKE FOR ME TO RECOGNIZE
HOW SPECTACULAR LIFE IS
AS MUCH AS JUST NOT FORGETTING
T H A T
i t
i s. . . ?
WE ARE A GENTLE, ANGRY PEOPLE
There are many different covers of this song but I like this version because it reminds me what we know, what we know we know, what we’d bet our lives that we know but for the LIFE OF US never act like we know. . .
WE ARE ALL INSTRUMENTS IN THE SYMPHONY OF THIS UNIVERSE
and the WE ARE AT OUR BESTS when we not only play in unison and harmony but when we just merely play together. . .
WE NEED TO BE THE CHORUS we already long have been and need to be now, UNMUTED, UNDILUTED, PURE, UNADULTERATED, UNFILTERINGLY US. . .
The video starts quietly but builds. I love how the singers end the song. ENJOY!
(My sincerest gratitude and appreciation to GALA Choruses.)
TWO STRANGERS WHO WEREN’T
THE HAPPINESS GRAB
IT’S THE ONE THING
THAT EVERYONE STOPS AND REACHES
whether it’s family
whether it’s work
whether it’s downtime
whether it’s personal as personal can be
H A P P I N E S S
but mere S-E-N-S-E. . .
Here’s a complete list of 100+ hacks we can use to boost important “happiness chemicals” such as dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins. These are the building blocks to living a happier and healthier life. Which are your favorites?
Dopamine (reward)
Dopamine is often associated with reward-seeking and goal-oriented behavior.
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- Complete a small and easy task (making your bed, washing the dishes, send an email).
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- Celebrate a small win (something you accomplished recently).
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- Eat a healthy but enjoyable snack (in moderation).
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- Complete a small puzzle or game.
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- Reflect on a positive memory you had recently, however small it may be.
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- Finish reading a chapter of a book.
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- Clean one thing or go on a tidying marathon one afternoon.
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- Practice a power-pose to boost your physical and mental confidence.
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- Create a timeline for your goals to get a clearer vision of your future.
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- Take a temporary break from a pleasurable habit (to reset your hedonic treadmill).
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- Learn how to savor your positive experiences.
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- Schedule something exciting in the future to look forward to (the power of anticipation).
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- Buy yourself something nice, but recognize retail therapy is only a temporary fix.
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- Take a break from social media, which can often lead to a “dopamine burnout” from easy likes and attention. Pay attention to your digital environment.
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- Learn about a new and exciting topic, but don’t become an information junkie.
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- Set a new goal for yourself (something realistic and attainable).
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- Take personality tests or psychology quizzes to learn more about yourself.
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- Make sure your diet includes important vitamins and minerals associated with dopamine production (especially iron, niacin, folate and vitamin B6).
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- Put a fun twist on ordinary activities to make them more enjoyable.
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- Find activities that put you into a state of “flow,” where you lose sense of time and become fully engaged.
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- Consume more positive news – and share it with others!
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- Complete a personal project or “passion project” that isn’t related to work or family.
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- Identify a strength or “superpower” of yours.
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- Recite positive affirmations that resonate with you and inspire you.
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- Share an accomplishment of yours with someone who’d be proud of you.
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- Play a video game you enjoy and you’re good at (in moderation).
- Cultivate a diverse range of interests and hobbies, so nothing ever gets stale.
Oxytocin (love/bonding)
Oxytocin is often associated with feelings of love, affection, and bonding.
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- Give someone a long hug (or hug yourself).
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- Play with a pet (especially a dog or cat).
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- Play with kids.
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- Cradle a baby.
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- Give someone a genuine compliment.
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- Wrap yourself in a comfy and warm blanket.
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- Cuddle with a loved one (while in bed or watching TV).
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- Volunteer for a cause that means something to you.
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- Practice a loving-kindness meditation to cultivate good intentions toward everyone.
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- Give or receive a massage or back rub.
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- Spend romantic alone time with your partner.
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- Embrace human touch, even in small ways such as a handshake or pat on the back.
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- Prepare a meal together with someone you love.
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- Collaborate on an art project with someone.
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- Listen to someone who needs someone to vent to and provide emotional validation.
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- Give a random gift or present to someone you care about.
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- Tell someone you love them.
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- Take a nice hot bath.
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- Practice eye-gazing with a loved one.
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- Empathize with someone who is less fortunate than you.
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- Write a letter of appreciation for someone.
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- Practice synchronized breathing or mirroring.
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- Participate in a group music activity, such as a drum circle or choir.
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- Use more “we”-language in your relationships.
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- Reach out to a person you trust when you need support or someone to listen.
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- Permit yourself to fall in love with someone and have a long-term relationship.
- Recognize your sense of oneness with everything.
Serotonin (happiness/mood)
Serotonin is often associated with mood regulation and happiness.
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- Practice meditation, such as a simple breathing meditation.
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- Go for a long walk.
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- Spend more time outside nd learn to appreciate everyday nature.
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- Sit in the sun and enjoy it (especially when boosting mental health in the winter).
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- Pursue a creative hobby, such as painting, music, photography, or filmmaking.
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- Listen to your favorite music, one of the most common ways we regulate our mood and emotions.
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- Do more aerobic exercises like swimming, running, or cycling.
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- Think kind thoughts about yourself to practice self-compassion.
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- Practice a progressive muscle relaxation to relax both your body and mind.
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- Go to a live event, festival, or concert.
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- Engage in more “awe”-inspiring experiences, like star-gazing, going to a museum, or visiting the zoo.
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- Identify one thing you are grateful for every day – make gratitude a daily mental habit.
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- Write in a daily journal about your thoughts and feelings (or try one of these writing prompts for self-reflection).
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- Maintain a consistent and healthy sleep schedule between 6-10 hours every night.
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- Train your mind to be more positive. Try to minimize complaining and talking about problems too much.
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- Drink green tea.
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- Consume high protein foods that contain tryptophan such as salmon, turkey, eggs, and nuts (or take a supplement).
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- Improve your body awareness through mindful stretching, Yoga, or Tai Chi.
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- Consume healthy probiotics in your diet (yogurt, kombucha, sauerkraut, pickles, and fermented foods).
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- Find opportunities to engage in healthy reflection.
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- Have a genuine and meaningful conversation with someone (know the difference between small talk vs. big questions).
- Participate in a religious or spiritual ceremony.
Endorphins (energy/pain-killer)
Endorphins are often associated with stimulation, energy, and feelings of relief (pain-killers).
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- Laugh a lot with friends.
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- Watch a comedy movie or funny TV show.
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- Go for a long run (also known as “runner’s high”).
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- Have an intense workout at the gym.
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- Engage in a competitive activity.
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- Pursue extreme sports (surfing, biking, skateboarding).
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- Eat dark chocolate.
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- Engage in positive thrill-seeking (like amusement parks, rollercoasters, or skydiving).
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- Dance to fast and upbeat music.
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- Take a cold shower to shock your body and boost your adrenaline.
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- Practice improvisation exercises where you can engage in spontaneous creative thinking and playful risk-taking.
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- Do something you’ve always wanted to, but you’re nervous to try. Learn how to channel anxiety into motivation.
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- Eat really spicy foods.
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- Engage in a healthy but lively debate about a topic you care a lot about.
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- Approach new people you want to meet, even if it’s a tiny 10 second relationship.
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- Go to a fun and wild party or night club.
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- Do a quick high-intensity workout (cycle through jumping jacks, push-ups and crunches).
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- Have passionate sex with your partner.
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- Learn how to play a musical instrument at a high level.
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- Perform something in front of an audience (such as a song, poem, or speech). Face your performance anxiety.
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- Enjoy a glass or two of red wine at night.
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- Get a chiropractic massage, deep-tissue massage, or try acupuncture.
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- Challenge yourself and put yourself in a situation you know you will fail. Setting yourself up to fail on purpose can be a great way to test your limits.
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- Sit in a hot sauna or jacuzzi.
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- Smell euphoric essential oils such as lavender, rosemary, or citrus fragrances.
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- Practice fast and powerful breathing to boost your energy levels.
- Watch a really intense drama or thriller movie.
Are you getting a healthy dose of all these “happiness chemicals?”
GUARANTEE?
ABSOLUTELY:
NONE OF THESE 100+ HAPPINESS HACKS
Will ever happen
unless you
try’s on for size. . .
Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, what do you have to lose??
H A P P I N E S S
W A R
Serbian saying: “In war the politicians give ammunition, the rich give the food and the poor give their children… When the war is over the politicians get back the leftover ammunition, the rich grow more food and the poor search for the graves of their children.”
WORDS
W o R d S
are all pretty meaningless
even if they are
ACTION WORDS
until they are
LIVING WORDS
THE WORLD IS MADE UP OF DEAD ENDS
DESOLATE
WAR TORN PLACES
(and that’s not even talking about the wars that are being waged in ourselves)
It reminds me of the words of the poet,
Warsan Shire
For the World’s sake
For your sake
(Literally) For God’s sake
we’ve got to Caring Catalyst UP
not Someday
(which can never be found on anyone’s Calendar)
but TODAY
IT’S time to BE
what the World needs
right where you are at
and to everyone you touch. . .
RAIN FALLS
When the rain falls
it gathers in the potholes
the dipped
not so evenly carved out
valleys
deep earth scars
that hold it
more tenderly
than Angel hugs
until unnoticed
drop by drop
they evaporate in a
Sun’s Shine
that can never be imagined
only experienced
so that it wishes
for yet another time
when the rain falls
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