Y U M S
A simple SNICKERS Candy Bar
in the supermarket
is worth about $0.50 on sale. . .
The same bottle in a bar costs $1 in a vending machineIn an airport gift shop or hotel it can be worth up to $3 or maybe even more. . .
The SNICKERS bar is the same, the only thing that changes is the
P L A C E
Each place gives a different value to the same product.
When you feel like you are worth nothing
and everyone around you belittles you,
stay there. . .
Have the courage to change places
and go to a place
where you are given
the value you deserve. . .
with people who really appreciate
YOUR WORTH. . .
Don’t settle for less!
You will find
will add to Some One Else’s
L E S S. . .Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. . .
During this COVID19 Pandemic
and just like all of the
events and holidays
this Holiday Season
isn’t going to escape
NOT BEING THE SAME. . .
have all come and limped away
and just when you think that
S C I E N C E
has something to do with just vaccines
it gives us a little hint about
Journalist JAMIE DUCHARME from TIME MAGAZINE pulls back the holiday curtain a little so we can get a hint. . .because after all:
‘Tis the season—of scrambling to finish your holiday shopping before the big day.
If you’re still looking for some last-minute holiday gifts, there’s a better way to find inspiration than scouring gift guides and mall displays. Here are four types of gifts that, according to science, you should give this year —and three you shouldn’t.
Don’t: Splurge on something flashy
It may feel like a faux pas to pick a holiday gift from the clearance section, but research suggests it’s the item—not the price tag—that matters most. While gift-givers tend to think their choices will land better if they’re expensive, research published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology didn’t back that up. In fact, there was no clear correlation between present price and recipient satisfaction. . .See, Evidence-based data!
Don’t: Give gifts on their behalf
Making a charitable donation in a friend or family member’s name may seem like the perfect holiday gift: Your spending goes to a worthy cause, and the recipient gets a gift they feel good about. A 2015 study published in the journal Organizational Behavior and Human Decisions, however, poked a hole in that theory. While close friends or family members may appreciate a socially responsible holiday gift, researchers found that casual acquaintances often feel slighted by them, potentially because the selection focuses “on the symbolic meaning of the gift,” rather than on the recipient herself. . .See, Evidence-based data!
Don’t: Dress up a bad gift
If you know a holiday gift is underwhelming, it may be tempting to overcompensate with big bows or fancy wrapping paper—but data from the Association for Consumer Research says that strategy may backfire. When people got a gift that they liked, the researchers found, attractive trappings slightly enhanced the experience. But when the gift itself was unsatisfactory—a science documentary, for the purposes of the study—wrapping actually worsened the recipients’ perception of the gift, likely because their expectations didn’t match reality. . .See, Evidence-based data!
Do: Give people gifts that they want
A study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychologyfound that gift-givers overestimate the impact of a surprise gift. In fact, the study found that people tend to appreciate getting things they specifically asked for more than unsolicited presents. Make your life easy and stick to their holiday wish list. . .See, Evidence-based data!
Do: Pick a gift card
Gift cards may seem like an impersonal or lazy holiday gift, but surveys have found that they’re actually a popular pick among gift recipients. A survey conducted by the National Retail Federation, for example, found that they were the most requested gift of 2015. Want to keep it even simpler? Other research has found that people are perfectly happy to receive cash as a gift. . .See, Evidence-based data!
Do: Give gifts that reflect your audience—and yourself
A series of studies published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology two years ago found, logically, that recipients prefer holiday gifts that reflect their own interests and hobbies. Interestingly, however, the researchers also found that “givers and receivers report greater feelings of closeness to their gift partner when the gift reflects the giver.” Sharing a favorite book, garment or keepsake with a loved one, then, may make the strongest impact in the long
Do: Give gifts that will last
Everyday items, like kitchen gadgets or wardrobe staples, may not feel like slam-dunk gifts, but a study published last year in Current Directions in Psychological Science found that people actually prefer presents they can use for months and years to come, rather than something that makes a statement right when it’s unwrapped. . .See, Evidence-based data!
This just may be the biggest
Holiday Pandemic Beater
only to be rivaled with
U N W R A P
t h a t
and we just don’t have a
G I F T
. . .we have a Season
that has no ending
(with or without a pandemic)
H O W M U C H. . .
would it take for you to quit your job and actually do what you
all-your-life-you-know-it’ll-be-better-than-happily-ever-after-job. . . ?
Would it take the Ultimate AMAZON OFFER?
A couple of years ago, Jeff Besos, the CEO of Amazon put out a decree:
$5000.00 to anyone who wanted to walk away from their Amazon job to go follow their bliss with a nice little severance jump-start. . .
Amazon Offers to Pay Employees $10,000 to Quit Their Jobs and Deliver Packages Instead
I T’ S T R U E. . .
A couple of days ago the ASSOCIATED PRESS reported:
NEW YORK — Amazon, which is racing to deliver packages faster, is turning to its employees with a proposition: Quit your job and we’ll help you start a business delivering Amazon packages.
The offer, announced Monday, comes as Amazon seeks to speed up its shipping time from two days to one for its Prime members. The company sees the new incentive as a way to get more packages delivered to shoppers’ doorsteps faster.
Amazon says it will cover up to $10,000 in startup costs for employees who are accepted into the program and leave their jobs. The company says it will also pay them three months’ worth of their salary. The offer is open to most part-time and full-time Amazon employees, including warehouse workers who pack and ship orders. Whole Foods employees are not eligible to receive the new incentives.
Seattle-based Amazon.com Inc. declined to say how many employees it expects to take them up on the offer.
The new employee incentive is part of a program Amazon started a year ago that lets anyone apply to launch an independent Amazon delivery business. It is part of the company’s plan to control more of its deliveries on its own, rather than rely on UPS, the post office and other carriers. Startup costs start at $10,000 and contractors that participate are able to lease blue vans with the Amazon smile logo stamped on the side.
Overall, more than 200 Amazon delivery businesses have been created since it launched the program last June, said John Felton, Amazon’s vice president of global delivery services.
One of them is run Milton Collier, a freight broker who started his business in Atlanta about eight months ago. Since then, it has grown to 120 employees with a fleet of 50 vans that can handle up to 200 delivery stops in a day. It has already been preparing for the one-day shipping switch by hiring more people.
“We’re ready,” says Collier.
So. . .
How much would it take for you to take
any amount of money? ? ?
I use to ask couples before they got married:
“WHAT’S THE ONE THING THAT WOULD BE THE DEAL BREAKER, THATt WOULD FOREVER END YOUR MARRIAGE?”
Most couples would answer:
“IF YOU CHEATED ON ME !“
I would always shock them and say:
They would be shocked and almost unanimously ask:
“WELL WHAT IS IT? WHAT’S THE ONE THING THAT WOULD BE THE DEAL BREAKER?”
I would give them a one-worded answer:
N O T H I N G !
THE ANSWER IS NOTHING
and I’m not so sure the answer is the same to the question of
HOW MUCH MONEY WOULD IT TAKE FOR YOU TO WALK AWAY FROM YOUR JOB. . .
Listen, I get it, the grass on the on the job farm always looks greener in another pasture,
with or without some smelling cow dung to help along with just the right green hue. . .
In fact, if I could write in down on the yellow legal pad and make it
I’d hands down be a full-time professional speaker and a severely prolific self-published author (I have to many control issues to become a traditionally published author)
but I learned a long time ago in a college creative writing class that
JUST THE MERE ACT OF WRITING FOR IT’S JOY IS BETTER THAN ANY HUGE ADVANCE FOR ANY ACCEPTED PUBLISHED WORK
and though it’s taken me nearly 40 years to come to believe THAT
I DO BELIEVE THAT. . .
I LIVE THAT
as I write this blog three days a week
as I write my poems
as I write my short stories
as I write my novels
as I write my several books of non-fiction. . .
What about you?
What would it take for you to leave it all for the
I’m living an enchanted life. . .
I work with the dying who teach me moment by moment
HOW TO LIVE
I write every day
and sometimes when I wake up in the middle of the night and can’t wait for the first of hint of morning light to put it down on paper or at least in a voice message to myself (which is much easier to decipher)
I speak to a small group of folks every Sunday who have allowed me to come back each week for over 24 years; I’ve been invited to speak to nurses, social workers, administrators, nursing homes, hospitals/hospices who like not so much what I say but how I make them EXPERIENCE IT when I say it; and I conduct well over 25 memorial/celebrations of life services that make my heart beat differently than at any other time. . .
What would it take. . .
N O T H I N G
Y o u ?
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm of the Day :
Maybe the real question isn’t
HOW MUCH. . .
It’s not a question you answer with your lips
(only your living)
Ever feel like a mere
S H A D O W
of yourself. . .
It’s most likely
T H E N
we go elsewhere to seek
a truer L I G H T
a Clearer REFLECTION of who we are. . .
W H E R E B E T T E R
I N T E R N E T
the massive MEDIA Monster
NOW THIS MUST BE TRUE. . .
There was this APP on Facebook that Generated
THE INNER CRYSTAL BALL
ALL of THIS with an gotta-be-true-color-analysis
WAIT. . .WHAT
Uhhhhhhhhhh. . .
how does one blush in BLACK & WHITE
SO SAYETH THE FACE BOOK SAGES
. . .IS IT EVEN DEBATABLE
. . .IS IT EVEN THINKABLE
. . .IS IT EVEN IMAGINABLE
W E L L. . .N O W
There’s always DOUBLING DOWN
and knowing that this would be the TATTOO
on my SOUL and my SIDE
Maybe this can all be DEFINED
Maybe this can all be UNDERSTOOD
Maybe this can all be EXPLAINED
May this can all be LIVED
with a mere sincere:
Isn’t it really just
T H I S S I M P L E
It’s not so much when
FACE COMES TO MIRROR
MIRROR COMES TO FACE. . .
when the SOUL is reflected
and not your facial features. . .
Life is MIRROR
. . .Life gives us not what we want. . .
LIFE GIVES US WHO WE ARE
. . .it matters not how you are
M E D I A ‘ D
to The World. . .
HOW DO YOU
S E E Y O U R S E L F
DO YOU KNOW ONE?
ARE YOU ONE?
I hadn’t even heard the term until yesterday afternoon during a Spiritual Care Coordinators Discipline Meeting. Dr. Kevin Dieter, a hospice doctor gave a presentation about Palliative Sedation/Management of Symptoms Intervention and began with this term. . .
And then I began asking those first two questions:
DO YOU KNOW ONE?
ARE YOU ONE?
An empath is a person who has the ability to feel the emotional state of another individual. There are many different types of empaths, however, Heyoka empaths may be the most spiritually attuned of them all.
What is a H e y o k a ?
‘Heyoka’ is a Native American word meaning ‘sacred clown’ or ‘fool’. This term is apt because it describes the way Heyoka use light humorous energies to open people’s minds and to heal. They work almost by tricking or joking with people.
This kind of empath sees life differently. They understand that sometimes the only way shift people’s thinking is to startle them out of it. They do this by showing them a completely different way of looking at things, often the complete opposite way.
The healing of a Heyoka is important, but they don’t take life too seriously. Heyoka empaths also behave as a mirror, reflecting other people’s behavior back to them so others can see themselves in a new way and begin to heal.
What do Heyokas do?
In Native American ceremonies, the Heyoka’s role would be to disrupt things in order to enable people to see things differently. This kind of empaths uses the energy of the sacred clown to open people’s eyes to new possibilities and different angles on a situation. They also have the ability to shift the energy of a group through their understanding of emotions.
Modern day Heyoka Empaths will often say or do something to shift energy and change perceptions. This allows others to begin to see clearly and heal. This kind of empath doesn’t heal in a conventional way, with crystals, their hands or through spirits. Instead, they create the space for others to become more aware of how they are behaving and thus heal themselves.
Heyoka empaths often heal through chaos and disruption. This is not always an easy or peaceful healing. However, it may be necessary for those completely stuck in a way of thinking that does not serve them.
Because Heyoka are empaths, they understand the emotions of others and are, therefore, able to provide the healing method suited to the individual’s needs. They might not heal someone completely all at once, however, he or she can lead someone through the next step on their journey to wholeness.
How do you know if you are a Heyoka?
Traditional signs that you are a Heyoka include being born breech, being dyslexic, being emotionally unpredictable, doing things backwards, being left-handed and thinking differently to others.
If you can feel other people’s emotions and instinctively know what they need to heal, you may be a Heyoka. You may also notice that when you have a deep conversation with someone, they often experience life-changing insights.
Perhaps you help people to heal through humor, or point out the ridiculous nature of a situation, in which case, you are using Heyoka energy. If you often find people are surprised or shocked by what you say or do, but then come round to your way of thinking and are able to move forward in their lives, then you are most certainly a Heyoka. . .
DO YOU KNOW ONE?
ARE YOU ONE ?
Pssssssssssssssssssssssst of the DAY:
to both questions:
Y E S
at our worst are
SHADOWS of Ourselves
a n d
at our BESTS
SHADOWS of OTHERS
Q U I C K:
What were you worried about three years ago today. . .
What did you get for your 12th Birthday. . .
Who was your Four Grade Teacher. . .
What did you get for Christmas in 1986. . .
WHAT DOES IT MATTER. . . .?
What do you want to be doing in 9 years. . .\
IF you had a $1000 and could only spend it on yourself, what would you buy. . .
Out of all of the ways to die, what’s your most feared. . .
What will you be doing, where will you be living when you retire. . .
W H A T D O E S I T M A T T E R
N O W ?
and then there’s
T H E P R E S E N T
and what makes it so Precious:
I T’ S Y O U R S
Y O U R S O N L Y. . .O N L Y Y O U R S
don’t be like so many
and literally leave it
U N O P E N E D
n o w
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A lot of people Hear. . .
A lot of people Listen. . .
A lot of people don’t do either!
There’s a major difference between
which we all have the capability of doing, of providing and
Compassionate Listening takes place when you are with another person and you are in a sacred place of actually hearing The Story they not only have to tell, but also need to share.
Compassionate Hearing takes place when you are actually present at an event, a Spot in which it would be impossible for you NOT to hear something you could have ever had the opportunity to hear anywhere else:
It’s a B E I N G
Not so much to an IF
Not so much to a HOW
But actually to a Where and a When
When you are at that WHERE and that WHEN
you no longer Hear or Listen. . .
You Experience the real message. . .
and then you share it to be experienced by others:
THAT’S the Where and the When of it all. . .
Singing in the Bathtub isn’t like singing on stage in front of 10,000 people. . .
IT matters Where
IT matters When
It’s a short film that I have played many times at the end of Presentations and I’ve hesitated for a
Loooooooooooog time in showing it here because if’s about 15 minutes in length. A film that is about what happens to people when somebody starts believing in them, ESPECIALLY when they don’t believe in themselves.
PEOPLE HAVE GONE FURTHER THAN THEY THOUGHT THEY EVER COULD–SIMPLY BECAUSE SOMEBODY ELSE THOUGHT THEY COULD. . .
It’s this simple:
BE THAT SOMEBODY!
Come on. . .it’s just a little over 15 minutes…that most likely won’t add another second to your Life,
but could actually add an Infinity to the quality of any other second you might live.
EXPERIENCE the Message. . .
BE the Message. . .
Share the EXPERIENCE. . .