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DESPITE SOME WELL SHED TEARS
IT WAS EXACTLY THE KIND OF RESET I NEEDED
(AND MAYBE YOU NEED AS WELL ON A MONDAY MORNING)
THIS KID IS AN ALL OUT ALL-STAR STUD
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DO NOT, NOT, NOT, NOT
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N O T
TO HAVE YOUR PHILOSOPHY FOR A HAPPY LIFE
A BETTER LIFE
CHALLENGED
AND BETTER STILL
ACTUALLY CHANGED FOREVER. . .
THE HAPPINESS GRAB
IT’S THE ONE THING
THAT EVERYONE STOPS AND REACHES
whether it’s family
whether it’s work
whether it’s downtime
whether it’s personal as personal can be
H A P P I N E S S
but mere S-E-N-S-E. . .
Here’s a complete list of 100+ hacks we can use to boost important “happiness chemicals” such as dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins. These are the building blocks to living a happier and healthier life. Which are your favorites?
Dopamine (reward)
Dopamine is often associated with reward-seeking and goal-oriented behavior.
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- Complete a small and easy task (making your bed, washing the dishes, send an email).
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- Celebrate a small win (something you accomplished recently).
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- Eat a healthy but enjoyable snack (in moderation).
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- Complete a small puzzle or game.
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- Reflect on a positive memory you had recently, however small it may be.
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- Finish reading a chapter of a book.
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- Clean one thing or go on a tidying marathon one afternoon.
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- Practice a power-pose to boost your physical and mental confidence.
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- Create a timeline for your goals to get a clearer vision of your future.
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- Take a temporary break from a pleasurable habit (to reset your hedonic treadmill).
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- Learn how to savor your positive experiences.
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- Schedule something exciting in the future to look forward to (the power of anticipation).
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- Buy yourself something nice, but recognize retail therapy is only a temporary fix.
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- Take a break from social media, which can often lead to a “dopamine burnout” from easy likes and attention. Pay attention to your digital environment.
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- Learn about a new and exciting topic, but don’t become an information junkie.
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- Set a new goal for yourself (something realistic and attainable).
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- Take personality tests or psychology quizzes to learn more about yourself.
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- Make sure your diet includes important vitamins and minerals associated with dopamine production (especially iron, niacin, folate and vitamin B6).
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- Put a fun twist on ordinary activities to make them more enjoyable.
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- Find activities that put you into a state of “flow,” where you lose sense of time and become fully engaged.
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- Consume more positive news – and share it with others!
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- Complete a personal project or “passion project” that isn’t related to work or family.
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- Identify a strength or “superpower” of yours.
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- Recite positive affirmations that resonate with you and inspire you.
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- Share an accomplishment of yours with someone who’d be proud of you.
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- Play a video game you enjoy and you’re good at (in moderation).
- Cultivate a diverse range of interests and hobbies, so nothing ever gets stale.
Oxytocin (love/bonding)
Oxytocin is often associated with feelings of love, affection, and bonding.
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- Give someone a long hug (or hug yourself).
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- Play with a pet (especially a dog or cat).
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- Play with kids.
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- Cradle a baby.
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- Give someone a genuine compliment.
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- Wrap yourself in a comfy and warm blanket.
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- Cuddle with a loved one (while in bed or watching TV).
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- Volunteer for a cause that means something to you.
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- Practice a loving-kindness meditation to cultivate good intentions toward everyone.
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- Give or receive a massage or back rub.
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- Spend romantic alone time with your partner.
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- Embrace human touch, even in small ways such as a handshake or pat on the back.
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- Prepare a meal together with someone you love.
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- Collaborate on an art project with someone.
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- Listen to someone who needs someone to vent to and provide emotional validation.
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- Give a random gift or present to someone you care about.
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- Tell someone you love them.
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- Take a nice hot bath.
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- Practice eye-gazing with a loved one.
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- Empathize with someone who is less fortunate than you.
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- Write a letter of appreciation for someone.
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- Practice synchronized breathing or mirroring.
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- Participate in a group music activity, such as a drum circle or choir.
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- Use more “we”-language in your relationships.
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- Reach out to a person you trust when you need support or someone to listen.
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- Permit yourself to fall in love with someone and have a long-term relationship.
- Recognize your sense of oneness with everything.
Serotonin (happiness/mood)
Serotonin is often associated with mood regulation and happiness.
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- Practice meditation, such as a simple breathing meditation.
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- Go for a long walk.
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- Spend more time outside nd learn to appreciate everyday nature.
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- Sit in the sun and enjoy it (especially when boosting mental health in the winter).
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- Pursue a creative hobby, such as painting, music, photography, or filmmaking.
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- Listen to your favorite music, one of the most common ways we regulate our mood and emotions.
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- Do more aerobic exercises like swimming, running, or cycling.
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- Think kind thoughts about yourself to practice self-compassion.
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- Practice a progressive muscle relaxation to relax both your body and mind.
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- Go to a live event, festival, or concert.
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- Engage in more “awe”-inspiring experiences, like star-gazing, going to a museum, or visiting the zoo.
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- Identify one thing you are grateful for every day – make gratitude a daily mental habit.
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- Write in a daily journal about your thoughts and feelings (or try one of these writing prompts for self-reflection).
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- Maintain a consistent and healthy sleep schedule between 6-10 hours every night.
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- Train your mind to be more positive. Try to minimize complaining and talking about problems too much.
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- Drink green tea.
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- Consume high protein foods that contain tryptophan such as salmon, turkey, eggs, and nuts (or take a supplement).
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- Improve your body awareness through mindful stretching, Yoga, or Tai Chi.
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- Consume healthy probiotics in your diet (yogurt, kombucha, sauerkraut, pickles, and fermented foods).
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- Find opportunities to engage in healthy reflection.
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- Have a genuine and meaningful conversation with someone (know the difference between small talk vs. big questions).
- Participate in a religious or spiritual ceremony.
Endorphins (energy/pain-killer)
Endorphins are often associated with stimulation, energy, and feelings of relief (pain-killers).
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- Laugh a lot with friends.
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- Watch a comedy movie or funny TV show.
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- Go for a long run (also known as “runner’s high”).
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- Have an intense workout at the gym.
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- Engage in a competitive activity.
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- Pursue extreme sports (surfing, biking, skateboarding).
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- Eat dark chocolate.
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- Engage in positive thrill-seeking (like amusement parks, rollercoasters, or skydiving).
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- Dance to fast and upbeat music.
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- Take a cold shower to shock your body and boost your adrenaline.
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- Practice improvisation exercises where you can engage in spontaneous creative thinking and playful risk-taking.
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- Do something you’ve always wanted to, but you’re nervous to try. Learn how to channel anxiety into motivation.
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- Eat really spicy foods.
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- Engage in a healthy but lively debate about a topic you care a lot about.
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- Approach new people you want to meet, even if it’s a tiny 10 second relationship.
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- Go to a fun and wild party or night club.
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- Do a quick high-intensity workout (cycle through jumping jacks, push-ups and crunches).
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- Have passionate sex with your partner.
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- Learn how to play a musical instrument at a high level.
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- Perform something in front of an audience (such as a song, poem, or speech). Face your performance anxiety.
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- Enjoy a glass or two of red wine at night.
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- Get a chiropractic massage, deep-tissue massage, or try acupuncture.
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- Challenge yourself and put yourself in a situation you know you will fail. Setting yourself up to fail on purpose can be a great way to test your limits.
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- Sit in a hot sauna or jacuzzi.
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- Smell euphoric essential oils such as lavender, rosemary, or citrus fragrances.
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- Practice fast and powerful breathing to boost your energy levels.
- Watch a really intense drama or thriller movie.
Are you getting a healthy dose of all these “happiness chemicals?”
GUARANTEE?
ABSOLUTELY:
NONE OF THESE 100+ HAPPINESS HACKS
Will ever happen
unless you
try’s on for size. . .
Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, what do you have to lose??
H A P P I N E S S
Not ANOTHER Birthday
Mark Twain
once said,
“The two most important days in your life are
THE DAY YOU ARE BORN
a n d
THE DAY YOU FIND OUT WHY”
We celebrate a person’s Birthday
Not because of the Day that they were born
But because of what they have born
Because of what they have given Birth in us. . .
I’ve celebrated well over 36
of my wife,
Erin’s Birthday’s
with her
And not one of them
has ever been without the over apparent
R E C O G N I T I O N
that I,
that many
are far more better
no so much
because she’s been Born
but because of what she has BIRTHED
in us. . .
Erin
creates
CARING CATALYSTS
in everyone she meets
or those who come across
her paths
“I never saw it coming
and all of a sudden
there was YOU
and I don’t have to live without you anymore. . .”
which means that the best
Birthday Gift of all
Is what you cause to be born in others. . .
Your Colorful Confetti
just doesn’t’ flutter from you. . .
IT EXPLODES ALL OVER US
and
THROUGH US
There’s no Candle on a Cake
that could ever illuminate more
and it’s
u n e x t i n g u i s h a b l e
Some actually powerfully prove
their Flicker
never compares to the
F L A M E
they ignite
and spread to others
. . .talk about a
fortunate inextinguishable inferno. . .
A Year in Review
NEW YEAR’S DAY
isn’t always JANUARY 1. . .
In fact
this past year there were a lot of
NEW YEAR’S DAY
almost every day
as we dealt with the
COVID Pandemic. . .
How do you think we’ve done
. . .HOW HAVE YOU DONE
It seems that each grain of sand
through the Hour Glass
has answered THAT
Q U E S T I O N
Now
there’s some evidence based data out
from this past year
and our roller coaster trip through it. . .
World Happiness Report Shows How We Weathered the Pandemic
Around the world, trust and generosity helped us cope with crisis.
KIRA M. NEWMAN a free lance reporter for Greater Good shares that throughout 2020, researchers called people across nearly 100 countries to ask how they were doing.
Results are being shared today in the 2021 World Happiness Report, which might seem like a misnomer given all the anxiety, grief, and general unhappiness that we experienced last year. But their survey told a surprising story, one of “almost astonishing resilience,” according to the report.
Yes, we experienced more sadness, worry, and stress in 2020 than in previous years. However, on average, there was no change in our positive feelings, or our satisfaction with life. While lockdowns, uncertainty, and loss hit our mental health hard last spring, there’s evidence to suggest that many people recovered over the course of the summer and fall.
The secret ingredient? Our trust in each other seems to have been crucial in weathering this crisis, both as individuals and as societies.
Bouncing Back
The World Happiness Report ranks the happiest countries based on a simple question: on a scale of 0-10, with the best possible life for you as 10 and the worst one as 0, where do you stand?
As in years past, the Scandinavian countries ranked as the happiest in the world, with Finland, Iceland, Denmark, and Switzerland at the top in 2020. As economist Baron Richard Layard of the London School of Economics explained in a Greater Good interview conducted in the wake of the 2018 World Happiness Report:
We should learn from the Scandinavian countries, which are uniformly happier than, for example, the U.K. or the United States. There are important lessons to be learned: You don’t have to turn your back on economics, but it’s not the be-all end-all. Human relationships are extremely important and need to be given a great deal of attention—we shouldn’t sacrifice them in the name of economic efficiency. Neither should we sacrifice human relationships at work, give up our work-life balance, or drive our children crazy at their high schools.
The researchers also ask participants about their experiences the day before, including positive emotions (whether they smiled, laughed, or felt enjoyment) and negative ones (whether they felt worried, sad, or angry). While positive emotions didn’t change in 2020 compared to previous years, more people felt worried (42%, up from 38%) and sad (26%, up from 23%).
When researchers drilled down to look at surveys conducted over the course of 2020, some hopeful patterns emerged.
Around the beginning of lockdowns, when many of the first studies were done, the shock to our mental health was clear. We felt anxious, depressed, traumatized, and lonely. But studies that followed people over the summer and into the fall began to look more positive.
One U.K. study identified several different trajectories that people followed. Nearly 23% had poor mental health in April and September, continuing to struggle as the pandemic dragged on. These were more likely to be young people, women over 65, and people who lost work during the year. Another 21% struggled in April but improved significantly by September. And over 40% of people were able to cope with the pandemic relatively well at both times.
Similarly, a study in the United States saw overall improvements in people’s anxiety, depression, and stress across the middle of 2020. After peaking near the beginning of April, mental health problems gradually lessened over time before stabilizing around July. Overall, the United States ranked 14th in happiness in the world, up from 18th in 2019, rating life overall as just over a 7 on a scale of 0-10.
Happiness is local
At an even more granular level, our emotions seem to shift day by day based on what’s happening in our local area.
For example, the report’s analysis of the social network Sina Weibo (similar to Twitter) found that on days with more new COVID-19 cases in China, Weibo users expressed lower happiness. This dip was less dramatic when stricter lockdown policies were in place, perhaps because people felt more protected or hopeful for the future. On days when more people recovered from COVID, users expressed more happiness online.
Researchers also used Google searches to investigate people’s moods in Hong Kong, Japan, South Korea, and Taiwan. On days with more new COVID cases in the country, people’s searches were more negative, touching on topics like apathy and fear. Again, stricter lockdown policies seemed to offset fears about rising case counts. And when more COVID patients recovered that day, people’s searches weren’t as frantic.
What makes us this resilient, even if it feels like we’re not?
Across the world, people tend to believe their lives are going better when they have money, health, and someone to count on, and when they’re generous to others. More satisfied people feel free to make life decisions and confident in public institutions. These factors still mattered in 2020, but the pandemic seemed to shift their importance slightly. While income became less important to happiness, for example, being generous became more important.
We need trust in a crisis
In fact, the authors write, one of the reasons why we showed so much resilience may have been the trust that many people have in their communities. To gauge that trust, researchers ask people around the world whether they believe their lost wallet would be returned by a neighbor, stranger, or police officer. Answering yes to that question seems to be vital to well-being—even more so than being employed or having high income.
This year, our sense of trust was deepened when we saw the young helping the old, people coming together online for support, and others creating care packages for health care workers. The authors write:
The pandemic has provided many chances to see the kindness of others. If seeing these kindnesses has been a pleasant surprise, then the resulting increase in perceived benevolence will help to offset the more widely recognized costs of uncertain income and employment, health risks, and disrupted social lives.
If this all sounds like too rosy a picture, it might be. Forced to conduct phone surveys, the World Happiness Report may not have reached the populations hit hardest by the pandemic—those in nursing homes and prisons; the homeless; the burned-out, working, homeschooling parents who have no time for a telephone call. And while we showed resilience as a globe, it was uneven. In many ways, the pandemic seems to have exacerbated existing inequalities in people’s health and well-being. And it’s not over yet.
Among its many disruptions to our lives, COVID has brought the topic of mental health to the fore. “Mental health has quickly risen high on policymakers’ and researchers’ agenda,” the report authors observe. Going forward, mental health will continue to be an important part of the conversations in our families, our communities, and our governments.
So what’s it all mean. . .
what’s our takeaway
in a year where everyday seemed like a
NEW YEAR
but without the confetti
. . .it often brought about
everything opposite of what we know and experience about
joy
happiness
security
hope
confidence
togetherness
caring
compassion
empathy
L I V I N G
Often can’t be measured
ONLY FELT
which may mean that the greatest
TAKEAWAY
just might be the biggest
GIVEAWAY: