BiGGER
BETTER
BRIGHTER
that’s what it’s all about in our world today, isn’t it. . .
and oh guess what. . .
we’ve been told countless times over
IN FACT
just watch the news
or just being in a group of people that you don’t even know
standing in line at a grocery store
or a coffee shop
S T O P
Listen to all the bad news that the world is giving us
P L A C E S
As if we don’t have those very dark places in our life
that are asking for what not a bonfire
not even a candle
or even a constant flame. . .
How about just a
F L I C K E R
just a flicker of Hope
and psssssssssssssssssssssssssst:
even if it comes from a
fake candle
that gives
it’s better than a brand new one that doesn’t. . .
so maybe the biggest question is:
ARE YOU THAT FLICKER
FROM A FLAME
AND LIGHT
A DARK SPOT
IN A DARK PLACE
TAHT NEEDS TO BE ILLUMINATED. . .
Are you?
BE THE SPARK
THE EMBER
THAT STARTS
THINGS
G L O W I N G
SHINING LIGHTS
It’s usually the first thing that comes to mind
when someone says:
H A N U K K A H
Adam Sandler and his famous song. . .
now don’t be fooled,
usually it’s the SEASON OF LIGHT is
s i l e n t
Sometimes the greatest message come with the tune without a lyric. . .
a n d
Sometimes it’s good to just listen to The Message that’s not spoken
but absolutely
H E A R D. . .
Hanukkah began at sunset last evening. . .
mere hours a way, still. . .
The message of Hanukkah is one that spans generations and touches on the very foundation of Jewish continuity; it began with Sunset last night;
Can HANUKKAH
teach us all a lesson we really need to learn?
1. Even on the coldest nights, the menorah will always burn bright.
2. Our children will pass HANUKKAH on to their children, who will pass it on to their children . . . forever. . .
IF WE ACTUALLY TEACH THEM THAT LIGHT OBLITERATES DARKNESS ON EVERY LEVEL!
3. Even after the greatest destruction, we continue to kindles the lights.
Terrorists could not stop Rabbi Shimon Rosenberg from lighting the menorah in Mumbai, India, where his daughter and son-in-law had been murdered just weeks earlier.
4. It brings light, and light pushes away so much darkness.
The Jews in Paris, France, even after the most horrific terror attacks, were not frightened to live and celebrate as proud Jews.
5. When a small menorah stood for justice and freedom . . .
6. . . . even after all else was seemingly destroyed.
Jews in the Westerbork transit camp in Holland light candles on the seventh night of Hanukkah. Some 106,000 Jews, including Anne Frank and her family, were deported from Holland to death camps in Poland through Westerbork.
7. And we lived to see the lights return to illuminate the world once more.
A giant menorah is kindled at the Brandenburg Gate in Berlin.
8. Brave young men and women risked their lives to ensure that Jewish people will live in safety and security in generations past . . .
Israeli soldiers around the Hanukkah lamp in the bunker on the Suez Canal, 1971.
9. . . .and on to the present day.
10. So that we may celebrate in freedom!
Hanukkah & Giving Thanks
Hanukkah is a special time for us to say thank You for all the little and big miracles in our lives. When we look into the beautiful, pure flames of the candles we remember that no day is just another day. There are blessings around all of us every moment, just waiting for us to notice them.
This year during Hanukkah, consider the following three ways to say thank you. (And not only on Thanksgiving.)
1. Write a letter.
In a recent experiment, people were asked to write a short paragraph about someone who had transformed their lives. After they wrote the paragraph, the experimenter handed them a phone and told them to call the person that they just wrote about and read them what they had just written. Some of them didn’t know the number. Some people went to cemeteries to read their letter at the gravesite of the person they hoped could hear their appreciation. Others reached the person they wrote about and broke down crying as they read their words out loud.
Across the board, the participants’ happiness levels rose by as much as 20 percent just from this exercise. So try writing a short Hanukkah card or email to someone that changed your life. It’s best if you send it, but even just writing it reminds us how blessed we are to have inspiring people in our lives.
2. Keep a gratitude journal.
On each day of Hanukkah, write down three new things that you are grateful for each day. This trains our brains to search for the positive in our lives. After a month of keeping a gratitude journal, people begin to think more optimistically and clearly. They stop constantly scanning the environment for the negative, and they notice others’ strengths instead of their weaknesses. The half hour after lighting the candles is a special time for thinking about the new blessings of today. Share them with your family as you sit around the menorah. We look into the flames shining with hope, and we remember our own ability to turn darkness into light.
3. Act gratefully.
Do one small act of kindness each day of Hanukkah. Open a door for someone. Leave a note somewhere that will make someone smile. Pay for the person’s coffee who is behind you in line. Take a coat you never wear and give it to someone on the street. Give an anonymous donation. Smile. Send a Hanukkah gift to someone who needs it. These small actions increase our own feelings of gratitude and create a chain of kindness.
4. JUST BECAUSE SOME ONE FOR THE NEXT 8 DAYS
Maybe you’ll be in front of someone in line at a drive thru Starbucks
You could be so creative with this. . .
whether it be
Send an anonymous gift card
or leaving an envelope of money
or bringing candy or cookies on the porch
or putting money in a parking meter of someone’s who’s about to expire
or being a SECRET SANTA when there’s no secret Santa Party. . .
Here’s the DEAL:
THE C E L E B R A T I O N O F L I G H T S
can last way past 8 nights
or 365 Days
I F
you just don’t so much want
but simply
A L L O W
Here’s the Simple Message:
Let’s not be about
L I G H T I N G C A N D L E S
so much as
I L L U M I N A T I N G L I V E S
T H E L I G H T
Y O U C A R R Y
I S A L S O
T H E B E A M
Y O U S H A R E
Light a Life
Warm a Heart
Illuminate A Soul
Obliterate A Darkness
S H I N E
Even a
F L I C K E R
G L O W S
END-L I G H T I N G
I love Candles. . .
I love the actual act of simply lighting Candles.
I Love how they make a room look.
I love how Candles can make a room smell.
I love how Candles illuminate something in me that nothing else quite can. . .
especially if music is playing;
I love that one of our friends with their kids made candles
and gave Erin and I each one last week;
I love the flickering dancing of a small flame from a Candle. . .
Y O U ?
Go figure. . .
Hanukkah and Christmas Eve are NOT the same days this year;
. . .in fact, we are already nearly in the middle of Hanukkah
and it’ll end in the evening of Wednesday, December 20. . .
four evenings before Christmas Eve. . .
My favorite Hanukkah Story is one of my Favorite Christmas stories:
Right before sunset a young boy and his mother were about to light the Menorah and he asked her,
“MOM, DO YOU LOVE ELENA MORE THAN YOU LOVE ME?”
As the rest of the family gathered around to Light the Menorah, she whispered back to her son, “Honey, I will answer that question when we light the Hanukkah Candles.”
She lit the Shamash, (the Candle that lights the other candles of the Menorah) held it high and said,
“ALL MY LOVE IS IN THIS FLAME. I AM GOING TO GIVE ALL MY LOVE TO GRANDMA AND GRANDPA.”
She lit that first candle, held the Shamash high above.
“LOOK, I STILL HAVE ALL MY LOVE.”
“NOW, I’M GIVING ALL OF MY LOVE TO YOUR DAD,”
She said as she lit the second candle, holding the Shamash high above and proclaiming,
“LOOK, I STILL HAVE ALL MY LOVE.”
“NOW, I’M GIVING ALL OF MY LOVE TO YOUR SISTER, ELENA,”
she said as she lit the third candle and then held the Shamash high above exclaiming,
“LOOK, I STILL HAVE ALL MY LOVE.”
“NOW I WILL GIVE ALL OF MY LOVE TO MR. BENSON, OUR NEIGHBOR WHO HAS NO FAMILY OF HIS OWN,” she said as she lit the fourth candle and held the Shamish high to say,
“LOOK, I STILL HAVE ALL OF MY LOVE.”
“NOW, FOR MY FRIEND CATHY WHO IS IN THE HOSPITAL,”
she said as she lit the fifth candle and once again held the Shamash high as she boldly said,
“LOOK, I STILL HAVE ALL MY LOVE.”
“NOW, HERE IS SOME LIGHT FOR ISRAEL, IN HOPE FOR PEACE,”
She lit the sixth candle, held the Shamash high to extol,
“LOOK, I STILL HAVE ALL OF MY LOVE.”
“NOW, I WILL GIVE ALL MY LOVE TO CHILDREN WHO DO NOT KNOW FROM WHERE THIER NEXT MEAL WILL COME.”
She lit that seventh candle, held the Shamash high and confidently stated,
“LOOK, I STILL HAVE ALL OF MY LOVE.”
“NOW. . .NOW, MY SON, I WILL LIGHT THIS EIGHTH CANDLE. AND I AM GIVING ALL OF MY LOVE TO YOU.”
C O U L D I T. . .
could it be that one Light ends at the same time Another Starts?
Could it be that they
ALL JUST CONTINUE TO
f l i c k e r
on. . .
enlighten. . .
to the eye that notices?
L I G H T I N G
is a VERB
For all Seasons
For all Days
For all Moments
For A L L
Maybe. . .
Maybe it’s all about just when the
Wick comes to Flame. . .
m a y b e
it’s all about
O N-L I G H T E N I N G
and less about
E N D-L I G H T E N I N G ?
S O . . .
S e e. . .
B e. . .
F r e e
that magnificent Light
w i t h i n
for all those
w i t h o u t. . .
I T I S I N E V E R Y O N E O F U S
Let’s in our own way
Let’s in our own time
p r a y
Be ENLIGHTENED
To ENLIGHTEN
To SEE
Burning the Candle
How. . .
H O W D O Y O U D O I T ?
How do you
B U R N Y O U R C A N D L E ?
Some do it in the most unconventional way. . .
t h e y
actually light their candle
by putting a little dancing flame
on the tip of a small wick
that accepts it gratefully
and in return for the gift,
sputters out some warmth and light. . .
But how do you burn your candle?
One End?
Both Ends?
In the Middle?
You don’t burn your Candle at all. . .
you use it as a Decoration?
There have been countless studies on how to avoid burn out. . .
maybe the greatest way to avoid Burn-Out
is simply never to Light the Candle at all
. . .but who wants to live in that
c o l d d a r k n e s s ?
Apparently. . .
a whole host of folks. . .
Y O U ?
The only true way to
Burn Your Candle
i s
Both Ends and in the Middle
AS LONG AS YOU KNOW
WHERE TO GET THE WAX AND THE WICK
Pssssssssst: We all know where OUR wax and wick are. . .
we just don’t take the time to go and get it!
In fact,
most have the audacity to actually think
it should be delivered to them on time,
without even ordering
or slowing down long enough
to receive the special shipment.
So the next time someone prescribes the ultimate antidote for Burn Out by
FINDING TIME TO DECOMPRESS
TAKING FREQUENT BREAKS THROUGH OUT THE DAY
WATCHING WHAT YOU EAT AND DRINK
EXERCISING. . .EVEN MODERATELY
GETTING PLENTY OF REST AND SLEEP
INVESTING SIGNIFICANTLY IN RELATIONSHIPS
SETTING LIMITS AND NOT CHOOSING TO DIE ON EVERY HILL
PAYING ATTENTION TO HOW YOU REALLY FEEL AND W H Y
Part of not only b e i n g
but by maintaining
the honorable status of a Caring Catalyst
is not just recognizing,
but actually taking just a few mere seconds to
burn a little bit brighter
burn a little bit warmer
by going to get
YOUR WAX
YOUR WICK
to burn the Candle at both ends and in the Middle
W H E R E ?
Simply to that place
that makes your Heart beat differently
that makes your Soul glow
that makes your Spirt soar
Shhhhhhhhhhhh. . .
How long has it been?
Has it even been with what you are currently doing?
Is it just your hobby?
. . .and you want to know the truest reason for Burn-Out?
Ask the Composer
who never put never fingers to keyboard
Ask the Artist
who never dabbed brush to canvas
Ask the Writer
who never put pen to paper
Ask the Sculptor
who never put chisel to marble or hand to clay
. . .the flame never brought to wick. . .
Want to end Burn Out ?
FIND YOURSELF AND
D O
B E
Y O U R
T R U E S T
I T
and experience
a light and a warmth
unrivaled but n o n e:
Y O U R ‘ S
Be more of
Y O U R S T O R Y
and less of
T H E I R S T U F F . . .
Ain’t it grand
Ain’t it majestic
Ain’t it glorious
Ain’t it perpetual ?
Pssssssssst: This is one thing you can bet your life on. . .
or
burn out!
Why be a
G L I M M E R
when you can be a
G L O W
. . . ?