We usually have no problems whatsoever walking the line if it happens to be a 4 inch line on the ground, BUT a 1 inch wide tight rope thin line 160 feet above Niagara Falls, well. . .we still have no trouble volunteering to walk that line or riding that line in a wheelbarrow. In fact, I’ll be the first one to VOLUNTEER YOU or SOMEONE ELSE to walk that line and others that might bring me danger, even if it means going from one significant point to another important place one treacherous step at a time.
TEETER-TOTTERING
When I recently saw this post from my friend, Phyllis Cole-Dai it may be do some pondering on some of my ponderings. . .a sort of inner TEETER-TOTTERING that takes place in all of us, but we don’t always share or to be honest, fully understand. . .So this is an invitation to do a little Monday morning Pondering with me and yeah, BALANCE ME as we do our own kind of TEETER-TOTTERING
What if we could change the space we inhabit with others for the better—even with something so simple as a pink teeter-totter?
Meet Rael San Fratello—a married duo of architects, Ronald Rael and Virginia San Fratello, based in Oakland, CA.
On July 28, 2019, when families were being forcibly separated at the US-Mexico border, Rael San Fratello installed three neon pink teeter-totters into the wall between El Paso and Ciudad Juárez. The seesaws physically joined the two communities despite the 20-foot barrier.
The teeter-totters were in place for only one hour. But for those sixty minutes, a small section of the border wall became a site of joyful connection rather than violent division. Children and adults from both sides of the wall literally lifted each other up.
Ronald Rael said that the project was intended as a powerful metaphor:
The teeter-totters represented the kind of balance necessary for any two people, two nations, to achieve equality, with the understanding that the actions on one side have direct consequences on the other. The teeter-totter is the physical manifestation of the Golden Rule—treat others as you would like others to treat you—a maxim that is shared by all cultures and religions. To experience joy on a teeter-totter, you must allow the other person to experience joy as well.
If interested, you can learn more about the couple’s creative endeavor in the brief video below.
(My thanks to Rael San Fratello, via Colossal and The Museum of Modern Art.)
Two Drops of Oil

The story is an old one
and I forget where I heard it
. . .or maybe I read it. . .
It’s often been attributed to Paulo Coelho,
author of THE ALCHEMIST
here now for your pondering:
A merchant sent his son to learn the Secret of Happiness from the wisest of men. The young man wandered through the desert for forty days until he reached a beautiful castle at the top of a mountain. There lived the sage that the young man was looking for.
However, instead of finding a holy man, our hero entered a room and saw a great deal of activity; merchants coming and going, people chatting in the corners, a small orchestra playing sweet melodies, and there was a table laden with the most delectable dishes of that part of the world.
The wise man talked to everybody, and the young man had to wait for two hours until it was time for his audience.
The Sage listened attentively to the reason for the boy’s visit, but told him that at that moment he did not have the time to explain to him the Secret of Happiness.
He suggested that the young man take a stroll around his palace and come back in two hours’ time.
“However, I want to ask you a favor,”he added, handling the boy a teaspoon, in which he poured two drops of oil. “While you walk, carry this spoon and don’t let the oil spill.”
The young man began to climb up and down the palace staircases, always keeping his eyes fixed on the spoon. At the end of two hours he returned to the presence of the wise man.
“So,” asked the sage, “did you see the Persian tapestries hanging in my dining room? Did you see the garden that the Master of Gardeners took ten years to create? Did you notice the beautiful parchments in my library?”
Embarrassed, the young man confessed that he had seen nothing. His only concern was not to spill the drops of oil that the wise man had entrusted to him.
“So, go back and see the wonders of my world,” said the wise man. “You can’t trust a man if you don’t know his house.”
Now more at ease, the young man took the spoon and strolled again through the palace, this time paying attention to all the works of art that hung from the ceiling and walls.
He saw the gardens, the mountains all around the palace, the delicacy of the flowers, the taste with which each work of art was placed in its niche. Returning to the sage, he reported in detail all that he had seen.
“But where are the two drops of oil that I entrusted to you?” asked the sage.
Looking down at the spoon, the young man realized that he had spilled the oil.
“Well, that is the only advice I have to give you,” said the sage of sages.
“The Secret of Happiness lies in looking at all the wonders of the world and never forgetting the two drops of oil in the spoon.”

How’s THAT
S P O O N
of yours. . .
Are the drops of oil long gone
splashed haphazardly all over the ground
or are they still securely floating there in the
silver hollow
because you’re paralyzed
won’t take a step
breathe in too deeply
for fear of losing the
precious drops. . .

THREE BIG QUESTIONS:
What do the ‘two drops of oil in the spoon’ mean to you?
Can you share a personal story of a time you were able to enjoy the world around without forgetting your essence?
What helps you appreciate the world without forgetting your sacred self?
Blending Opposites
When was the last time you felt totally
B A LA NC ED. . .?
If you talk to any person or group of people they most likely will admit to you that
BALANCE
is work and rare for any length of time.
Well, of course there’s an APP for THAT and now, of all things, a bracelet.
A LOKAI Bracelet.
It’s a stretchable bracelet that has a Black Bead containing mud from the Dead Sea, the lowest point on Earth. The Black Bead symbolizes the most Difficult moments you may experience throughout life.
Directly across from the Black Bead of Difficulty is a White Bead containing water from Mt. Everest, the highest point on Earth, highlighting Life’s Highest moments. The water is actually infused into the silicone mixture and then injected into the White ball itself to insure that the water is always in the Bead.
The Clear Beads in between are clear to remind us that
C L A R I T Y
is key in times of both, Joy and Sadness.
The Clear Beads also symbolize that we all have
A STORY
and those Beads just represent pieces of THAT Story.
The Lokai Bracelet was created by a man named Steven Izen after he learned that his grandfather had been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease. The experience of joy and sadness was experienced so close together that he thought life is
C I R C U L A R
and throughout our highest HIGHS and lowest LOWS, it’s important to always remain balanced.
Why LOKAI?
The name was inspired by the Hawaiian Word: L O K A H I
which means UNITY and to BLEND OPPOSITES. . . .
It’s main purpose is to
R E M I N D
us to simply stay HOPEFUL and know that even in the most darkest moments
IT WILL GET BETTER!
I asked HER about this bracelet when I first saw it and in part, that was the explanation I received.
My knee-jerk follow up question was:
DOES IT WORK?
There was no hesitation before I got a one-word answer:
A B S O L U T E L Y.
I swallowed hard the remark,
“SO DOES SHARK REPELLENT IN OHIO!”
What is it for you?
What gives. . .brings. . .assures. . .infuses. . .promises. . .delivers. . .
B A LAN CE in YOU?
Is it a Bracelet?
Is it a Blanket?
Is it a Robe?
Is it a piece of jewelry?
Is it a Symbol?
Is it a piece of clothing?
Is it a Chair?
Is it Music?
Is it a Written Word?
Is it Food?
Is it Alcohol?
Is it Drugs?
Is it a certain kind of meditation?
Is it a massage?
Is it_______________________________________________?
Whatever you feel brings you Balance, does–doesn’t it?
What YOU THINK really is a powerful, second-to-none-potion.
Pssssssst: It’s NOT the same thing for Everyone.
The real irony is that
WHATEVER IT IS
is seldom utilized.
IT should be used often/always. . .
and then…then Shared!
(NO, NOT THE SYMBOL FOR THE BALANCING)
But YOUR BALANCED SELF!
YOUR BALANCED SELF IS THE GREATEST FORM OF BALANCE YOU CAN BRING TO ANOTHER. . .
(WHICH IS THE REASON I WEAR MY LOKAI BRACELET–TO BE BALANCED TO BRING BALANCE).
A Peaceful Heart Comforts a Troubled Heart
which equals
A BLENDED BALANCE!
Slip THAT on for Size