D O E S     I T     M A T T E R ?

Well, apparently the

Science   of   Happily   Ever   After

has gone well over and under the microscope–literally–and the examination table.

In her article,

MASTER   OF   LOVE,

author, Emily Smith reveals that of all the couples that get married,

only THREE in TEN remain in healthy, happy marriages.

W O W .        .        .

that’ll sour the Chocolate Heart well before Valentine’s Day.

Has it come to   T H I S:

A team of Researchers, Scientists actually hooked up couples to electrodes and asked the couples to speak about their relationship, how they met, a major conflict they were facing together, and a positive memory. As they spoke, these electrodes measured blood flow, heart rates, and how much sweat they actually produced…then the Researchers sent these folks home and followed up on them SIX YEARS LATER;

Forget about the  THREE  out of   TEN   formula.      .      .

Do you know what the two most powerful characteristics they found to long-lasting relationships?

K        I        N        D        N        E        S        S

G        E        N        E        R        O        S       I        T        Y

In most marriages,

T      H      E      Y   

concluded, levels of satisfaction drop dramatically within the first few years together;

BUT  AMONG  COUPLES  WHO  NOT  ONLY  ENDURE, BUT  LIVE  HAPPILY  TOGETHER  FOR  YEARS  AND  YEARS, THE  SPIRIT  OF  KINDNESS  AND  GENEROSITY  GUIDES  THEM  FORWARD!

What’s   T H A T   tell  you?

Being in a committed relationship now

(FOR   A   D O-O V E R)

for nearly 34 years,

with Mt Everest highs and the darkest of Abyss lows

over roads that would have begged for ruts and dust,

they were so desolate,

I,
like   many   others,

can prove to you what was implied but not measured

with this or any study:

K I N D N E S S   A N D   GENEROSITY

DO   NOT   WORK
–E V E R–

o       n       c       e .        .        .

Kindness and Generosity have to be consistently

D  O  N  E / E  X  P  E  R  I  E  N  C  E  D

I’m one of the few people known to all generations of all faiths

who actually doesn’t like

the Story of the Good Samaritan.          .          .

A guy gets thrashed and everyone avoids him from the Commoner to the most highly religious except, well, except for the lowest of the low scum of the earth, who took time to at least stop and help the man, got him patched up and then took him to a hostel where he could rehab; actually paid in advance and told the innkeeper, if it wasn’t enough, he’d settle up with him the next time he came back into town. . .

What’s not to like?

Well, here’s something that the Social Scientists don’t have to Electrode you up for:

ANYONE   CAN   DO   THAT–

Be a Good Samaritan–

O     N     C     E .          .          .

but what about a thousand and  O N C E  times

or a Billion,

a Ga-Zillion and  O N C E  times?

Who would have thought that

C      O      N      S      I      S      T      E      N      T      L      Y

being Kind and Generous

would be the key components for a long-lasting-happily-ever-after relationship?

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm  of  the  D A Y:

Maybe   if   we
T         H         O         U         G         H         T

l   e    s    s

and practiced
Kindness and Generosity

more.           .           .

Well,

you do the research:

Resource:

http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200910/what-makes-marriage-work

http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after/372573/