https://youtu.be/SQuyCc1Cuac
So just what is in your
L U N C H B O X. . .
Maybe the bigger question is:
just
what
are
you
w i l l i n g
t o
s h a r e. . .
and the greatest question yet:
A R E Y O U ?
EMPATHETIC-ED
Have you?
Have you ever been EMPATHETIC-ED?
I mean. . .
the The New York Times. . .T W I C E in the Sunday, July 12, 2015 edition (See at the Bottom of the Blog)
Stewart Butterfield’s article,
IS YOUR EMPATHY ON YOUR RESUME?
actually states:
“If you have no ability to empathize, then it’s difficult to give people feedback, and it’s difficult to help people improve. Everything becomes harder.”
Daryl Cameron’s article: EMPATHY IS ACTUALLY A CHOICE, reports:
“It’s not that you can’t feel it. You just don’t want to.”
Something like
e m p a t h y
should never come down to
S c i e n c e,
but what could actually offer more proof?
Decades of research, including behavioral studies, in which people act empathically in controlled situations, even when it’s in their self-interest not to,
and in MRI studies,
in which emotive brain structures activate when the subject hears about another person’s experience.
Let’s face it, it it weren’t for
E M P A T H Y
Authors and Hollywood would be out of business
. . .F O R E V E R
But. . .it doesn’t matter, does it?
BEHAVIORAL SCIENCE
tells us, there are mental disorders, such as sociopathy, that stops people from being able to feel empathy.
BUT. . .
most people aren’t sociopaths.
Some research suggests that 4% of the population is sociopathic. . .
I’m terrible at Math. . .
but even I know that would obviously mean 96% of all humans feel empathy. . .
a pretty large number, huh?
What. . .
what does it matter?
If you’ve truly been
E M P A T H E T I C – E D
It means you care in return. . .
or you fake it. . .
or. . .
you can’t feel it all. . . .
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The Happiness BEAST
S i m p l e Q u e s t i o n:
W H A T M A K E S Y O U H A P P Y ?
A good Cigar
Some fine music
Adult Beverage
A Book
A Beautiful Outside Setting
? ? ? ? ?
Not for everyone, huh?
Is there that overwhelming
100%
slam-dunk
one-size-fits-and-pleases-all
solution to
W O R L D
or
p e r s o n a l
H A P P I N E S S
Hmmmmmmmmmmmm. . .
the answer might not
uhhhh make yoiu
h a p p y. . .
Maybe it’s just being overemphasized;
Did you know that
H A P P I N E S S
has it’s own it’s own
h o l i d a y ?
Just a few years ago
The General Assembly of the United Nations
proclaimed MARCH 20
to the be the
International Day of Happiness. . .
Oops. . .
I missed it;
I didn’t celebrate. . .
But it is easy to see why
H A P P I N E S S
is worth celebrating:
Happy people are healthier;
they get sick less often
THEY LIVE L O N G E R
Happy people have better realtionships
more friends
make more money
are more productive at work. . .
Based on decades of research
it’s become very clear
that Happiness is not just a personal issue;
it’s a matter of public health,
global economics
and natural well being
B U T
it’s subjective, isn’t it?
THE GREATER GOOD SCIENCE CENTER
(Yes, it really does exist–Google it)
They simply recommend through
S C I E N T I F I C S T U D Y
ACKNOWLEDGE THE GOOD
(WRITE DOWN 3 THINGS A DAY YOU ARE GRATEFUL )
ADD HAPPINESS THROUGH SUBTRACTION
(GIVE IT UP PRACTICE–GIVE UP WHAT YOU REALLY LIKE JUST FOR A LITTLE BIT OF TIME SO YOU CAN APPRECIATE IT EVEN ALL THE MORE)
FIND MEANING AND PURPOSE
(TAKE PICTURES OF PEOPLE AND THINGS THAT ARE MEANINGFUL TO YOU AND LITERALLY JOURNAL FOR 15 MINUTES A DAY JUST ABOUT YOUR IDEAL FUTURE AND WHAT IT WOULD LOOK LIKE)
USE YOUR STRENGTH
(PICK ONE OF YOUR STRENGTHS AND USE IT EXCLUSIVELY IN A NEW AND DIFFERENT WAY FOR A WEEK AND THEN ANOTHER AND THEN ANOTHER. . . )
CONNECT WITH OTHERS
(JUST DO FIVE RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS A DAY–NOT OVER A WEEK, BUT A DAY FOR A WEEK; STUDIES SHOUT THAT WHEN YOU DO–GIVE–IT SIGNIFICANTLY MAKES YOU HAPPIER)
WHAT REALLY MAKES YOU HAPPY ?
It’s different for everyone
T H A N K F U L L Y
QUICK ANSWER:
WHATEVER FEEDS YOUR SOUL
but you’ve got to
ACTUALLY FEED YOUR SOUL
it won’t happen
through osmosis
IF HAPPINESS IS A TRAIN
YOU DON’T HAVE TO RIDE THE CABOOSE
OR JUST BE A PASSENGER
WATING TO GO TO THE DINING CAR
ENGINEER THAT TRAIN
AND TOOT-TOOT YOURSELF DOWN THE TRACK
NOT TO HAPPINESS
BUT TO YOUR
S E V E N T H H E A V E N
SEE YOU AT THE STATION!
CHOOO-CHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!
When Generosity is More than a W O R D
Do you have one?
Do you remember a time when you actually saw an
A C T O F G E N E R O S I T Y ?
Erin, my wife, gave this Parka from Alaska via a Thrift store, right off her back on a cold winter day when she saw someone she recognized, who rode his bike everyday from his house to a local coffee shop, now in a cold snow storm, without a coat.
A friend, Terry, did the same thing a few years ago. A group of us from Church made sandwiches, bought gloves to literally pass out to the homeless on a cold, Sunday afternoon. We literally had given everything we came downtown to give and there was one, cold gentleman who got there late and asked if there was anything left; the sandwiches, gloves, hats had all been distributed, but Terry literally took off her coat and sweatshirt and gave it to the man.
I just heard about a guy on an airplane who actually tipped the Flight Attendant a $100.00 for the amazing job she did serving during the flight.
He was standing at a Stop Light in front of a Strip Mall with a Panera Bread. As I came up to the light he was standing there just holding a sign. . .no bucket or anything to collect money. He wasn’t aggressive. . .just standing there holding a sign I’ve never seen anyone E V E R hold before:
S E E K I N G H U M A N K I N D N E S S
I rolled down the window and for the first time in my life,
gave a $10 d o l l a r b i l l
and the meal we had just bought. . .
I never knew that such an offering could buy such an expression on someone’s face;
Do you have one?
Do you remember a time when you actually saw an
A C T O F G E N E R O S I T Y ?
There is no way to ever measure,
is there,
the exact effect it had on the
O N E
who actually received such an act of generosity–
F O R G E T T H A T
Having witnessed an Act of Generosity…
WHAT EFFECT DID IT HAVE ON YOU?
Has it worn off?
Did it inspire you to
GO AND DO LIKEWISE ?
G e n e r o u s A C T S
will do that…
so do the TELLING
so do the HEARING
of such acts. . . .
DO TELL
S H A R E
so that WE will not only get the benefit. . .
but be inspired to make our own
Stories of Generosity
to be witnessed
to tell
to be told
to experience
to inspire yet even more
to tell
to be told
to experience
to inspire
to make
G E N E R O S I T Y
more than just a mere
WORD. . .
DO TELL
S H A R E
What’s
Y O U R S T O R Y ?
Life ASSURANCE
This week is a very Holy week in the Judeo-Christian population that spans the World.
It always brings to surface the most interesting questions and debates but it always focuses on doing for others what you would want done for you. . .
for being
K I N D;
We spend literal billions of dollars
INSURING LIFE
but easily go in the
RED
when it comes to
ASSURING LIFE. . .
What’s in it for you?
Is it just Dollars and Cents?
A nicer Home?
Better furnishings?
Higher Education?
Prestigious Job?
Comfy Bank Account?
Healthy Check-Up’s?
W H A T ?
I mean, can we actually LIVE
off a Feel-Good Emotions?
Will merely witnessing HAPPINESS
make you HAPPY?
Will reaching UNDERSTANDING
make you HAPPY?
Will feeling Love
guarantee what no money or vast amounts of it
BUY?
WHAT IS IT YOU DESIRE MOST?
Sometimes. . .
It’s NOT the Ripple you cause,
but the one you
C A U S E T O B E C A U S E D
in others. . .
The one you might never know exists,
let alone ever having knowledge of I N D U C I N G. . .
Life INSURANCE
may never be used. . .
L I F E A S S U R A N C E
will never fail NOT being Utilized;
Hmmmmmmmmm of the Day:
LIFE ASSURANCE is something we’ll all be able to CASH in on. . .
It’s what’ll make a Holy Week,
H O L Y
even when it’s
N O T !
Now
THAT’S a POLICY
we all should invest in
L A S T W E E K. . .
https://youtu.be/b-xScLIevw0
LOVE HAS NO LABELS. . .
if that were
ONLY T R U E
if that were
ONLY THE NORM
and not the
n o n s t a n a r d
Love Has No Labels
is a movement to open our eyes to there unconscious bias. . .
While the vast majority of Americans
consider themselves
UNPREJUDICED
many of us unintentionally make snap judgements
about people
based on what we see–
whether it’s
race
age
gender
religion
sexuality
or disability
By becoming aware of our own
b i a s e s
WE can work to end bias
in ourselves,
our families
our friends
our communities. . .
Hmmmmmmmmm of the DAY:
WE NEED AN ORGANIZED MOVEMENT
to show us we need
LOVE WITH NO LABELS
Let’s make it this Simple:
Challenge that;
Inspire that;
Mirror that;
Share that;
B E T H A T
(not often)
A L L – W A Y S !
Scars
We all have them, don’t we?
S C A R S !
They always tell stories, don’t they?
Where we got them?
How long ago?
What they used to look like?
How they faded. . .
How,
How they still hurt. . .
But isn’t this the truest of true?
The worst scars there are,
the ones that hurt the most,
aren’t the ones we wear on our sleeves,
or can ever really be seen. . .
they’re the ones we wear on our hearts,
aren’t they?
It’s an older movie now,
“THE PERKS OF BEING A WALLFLOWER,”
2012;
the book, older still, by Stephen Chbosky,
1999,
and there’s a Classic line that’ll knock you to your knees and let the funk run out, or at least, uncover that bruised, scarred, still-very-much-beating heart
“WE ACCEPT THE LOVE WE THINK WE DESERVE.”
Before I even hint of asking you,
is it
T R U E
or
F A L S E,
maybe what I should really ask is,
“Are you willing to show your scars,
every minute,
infinitesimal scar
your beating heart expands
with each pulsation?
Well. . . ?
T R U E
or
F A L S E ?
Sorry. . .
you’ve got to
S H O W
your work,
just like some Fifth Grade Math homework. . .
P R O V E I T !
Do Y O U,
Accept the Love
Y O U
think YOU deserve?
Want to see my scar ?
Ohhhhhhhhhhhh,
you already have—-
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm,
your scars are my scars,
my scars are yours. . .
TABLE’D U P
https://youtu.be/vDuA9OPyp6I
A R E Y O U H U N G R Y ?
For what?
Steak?
Potatoes?
Salad?
Broccoli?
Corn?
Mashed Potatoes?
Spanish Rice?
Shrimp and Grits?
Ribs?
Eggs, Bacon and Homefries?
A Grande Breve Latte?
Cake?
Pie?
Sherbert?
Rootbeer Float?
Milkshake?
Cookies?
Candy Bars?
Tic Tac’s?
Gum?
Popcorn?
Well. . .
that which feeds you,
r e a l l y
r e a l l y
feeds you. . .
E A T Y O U R F I L L
Feed the Beast
and Feed it often
until you’re slothingly
F U L L
and. . .
don’t go hungry
ever again. . .
and more. . .
f e e d a n o t h e r
and really take care
of the
hunger problem!
Maybe what the world needs now
is just a huge table full of
hungry people
willing to share
t h e i r b e s t s
to the left
and right of them
and not being ashamed
to go for the
s e c o n d s
or
t h i r d s. . .
T a b l e U P
Bon appetit
LET I T
The best way to make
Valentine’s Day
a
l i f e s t y l e
of being an ongoing
Caring Catalyst
is summed up with
JUST 4 WORDS
l e t
y o u r
l o v e
f l o w
The H A N D
I’ve got to
H A N D I T
to you. . .
no pun intended!
Really. . .
It’s never the Hand
you’ve been dealt. . .
Go ahead. . .
finish the cliche. . .
it’s the way you play it!
W R O N G !
When I do my presentation:
DID YOU HEAR WHAT I DIDN’T SAY,
I always H A N D
everyone a card as they walk in
and then I let them choose one on their own. . .
Most ask,
“Am I allowed to look ?” or
“What’s this for ?”
Then I forget about it. . .
almost until the middle to end of my talk;
I tell them to take their cards and ask:
“W H O W O N ?”
It’s amazing to me how many people
tell me that they have won and why. . .
. . .Say’s Who ?
“Why did you win?”
I ask,
don’t we know what game we’re playing and more. . .
here’s the clincher:
W H A T A R E T H E R U L E S ?
We play
U N A N N O U N C E D
G a m e s
e v e r y d a y
and as if that’s bad enough,
what’s worse,
we’re trying to F I G U R E
out the rules
let alone being willing to play by them;
Each person,
friend,
family,
stranger
deals up a set of cards for us
and the Game is O N !
The most important Language you’ll ever Speak
or Hear
is the one you’ll never utter or detect by sound,
but begging to be understood. . .
Pssssssssst of the Day:
It’s never the Hand you’ve been dealt,
or the Hand you’ve had
or are currently holding right now. . .
It’s Not the Hand you’re playing—
It’s the Hand you are Extending. . .
the hand you are Sharing. . .
the Hand you’re Giving. . .
and yes, most importantly,
the Hand you’re holding
(THAT’S ATTACHED TO ANOTHER ARM)!
NEVER let the hand you’re dealt
interfere with the
H a n d y o u E x t e n d. . .
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