I got McNOTICED
yesterday morning
going through the drive through
for my egg McMuffin. . .
as he took my money,
he was staring at me
and then said,
“Sir, you had the funeral service for my grandmother,”
he swallowed hard
and his eyes filled up with tears and then he said,
“You did really, really good. . .thank you.”
We both paused
just short enough for those behind me
to begin McHONKING. . .
I swallowed just as hard
and thanked him for
(literally)
McNOTICING ME!
We both
McLAUGHED
and bid each other a good day. . .
GET McNOTICED
and more. . .
do something to make sure you’re never
McFORGOTTEN!
A COMMERCIAL BREAK
Are you in need of a Commercial Break. . .
We all seem to be scrambling for
THAT
Remote Control
(not of our TV’s)
of our lives
that’ll not fast forward us through the Commercial
to get back to our regular program
but actually
S T O P
The Regular Scheduled Program
to literally give us a much needed
b r e a k
and show us
give us
not what we need to buy
b u t
WHAT WE NEED TO HAVE
(and no, it’s not a Dodge Ram Truck)

After all of the
C L O C K S
have Ticked their
T O C K S
what we need is more than a program
or a commercial can promise or give
but just the same
the seeds to our fertile fields
can be found there
in the middle of both
on our
EIGHTH DAY. . .

. . .so before your HOUR GLASS
goes Sandless
c o n s i d e r
maybe not so much how you’d spend your
E I G H T H DAY
as how you’d
INVEST IT

Just don’t put that in
Your Field
and Plant it
. . .Harvest it
and take it to
MARKET
for the Farmer in all of us
. . .it just could be
The Commercial Break
needed from this
not-so-great-regular-program
WISHLESSNESS

W I S H L E S S N E S S
is a Buddhist term
that kind of means
Y O U
don’t have to have something in front of you
to run after
IT’S ALEADY HERE
. . .Just walk your Path

Which took me down the tracks
t o:
The Carrot doesn’t need to be dangled
The Road doesn’t need to be traveled
The Gold doesn’t need to be mined
The Silver doesn’t need to be refined
The Prize doesn’t need to be won
The Treasure doesn’t need to be unearthed
Enter into the rarely journeyed
newly undiscovered World of
Wishlessness
to experience the uncharted
n o w
and find it’s not just an Everything
but an ALL
that needs no
replacing
enhancing

Psssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssst:
r u n
t o
t h a t
and know

A HOLY PLACE

I’ve always thought that
THE HOLY
was never a Place
so much as
A PERSON
and more intimately. . .
Y O U
and from that came
THIS:
I went to Church
it wasn’t Church-ing

I went to the Playground
it was no longer a ground for play

I went to the Movies
they weren’t movie-ing

I went to the Show
it wasn’t showing
I went to the Concert Hall
it had been silently hall’ed away
I went to the Park
it was prohibitedly parked

I went to the Mall
it had indefinitely been mall’ed shut
I went to the Store
it had been mostly stored away
I went Home
it had been homed sheltered up
and though familiar
so utterly unrecognizable
and then
Then I journeyed in
to a cavern
to a nook
to a creaky cranny
I seldom visit
And there
t h e r e
was the holy
an altar not often knelt before
a communion rarely shared
a hymn not yet sung
a litany never recited
a homily vaguely strange
(maybe imagined)
a benediction
challenging to go forth
and make a difference
while urging me to stay
and know a sacred distinction
May be
(be it may)
that what’s Holy
is THAT which is
WHOLLY
ME
Perfectly Imperfect
ME
Ahhhhhhhhhhh
Christmas, Easter, New Year’s Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kippur, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Ramadan, Eid Al-Fitr, Eid Al-Adha, Diwali, Holi, Vesak, Parinirvana Day, Chinese New Year’s
At Once
Wholly
Holy
In Me

SILIENCE is never SILENCE
It’s more than the profound question:
DID YOU HEAR WHAT I DIDN’T SAY?
It’s more like:
DO YOU RECOGNIZE WHAT YOU NOTICED. . . ?
In a few hundred blog posts past, I remember posting an actual BLOG VIDEO MONDAY of a famous 2007 experiment, when violin virtuoso Joshua Bell tried his hand at busking in a plaza of the D.C. metro, playing anonymously for nearly an hour on his priceless 1713 Stradivarius violin, a talent for which he is often paid $1,000 a minute. In the end, only seven out of a thousand passersby stopped to listen. He collected $32.17. When he finished playing each piece, there was no response from the passing crowd. But, as Washington Post writer Gene Weingarten noted,
“Every single time a child walked past, he or she tried to stop and watch. And every single time, a parent scooted the kid away.”
Are we seasoned experts of not noticing what we recognize;
of
obviously not seeing what we look at. . . ?
It’s far past being a casual
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm of the Day. . .
READ THE WORDS YOU JUST HEARD:
It’s fun to think of your favorite artists, back when they were just starting out. Playing the sidewalk in total anonymity. It makes you wonder, if they were right there in front of you, would you have noticed? Strange that something so vibrant as art is so nearly invisible. Strange how rarely we stop to savor the details, or hear the music playing in the background that’s far better than it has any right to be. It’s only after someone points it out, that you finally catch the tune. It makes you wonder if there’s brilliance all around you, hiding in plain sight, just waiting around to see if you’ll notice. Who knows how many Kafkas and Van Goghs you might be walking past? Maybe the next J.K. Rowling is living just down the street, maybe she doesn’t even suspect it, any more than we do. We assume that if a piece is any good, surely it’ll find an audience. But maybe it’s mostly luck. Luck that they’re not already famous. or luck that the right person just happened to look up. One never knows how two people find each other, if they ever meet at all. Imagine how much courage it takes, to show up and keep playing anyway, hoping it’ll resonate with someone passing by, though it won’t happen for everybody. To keep pouring your heart into something, even if it falls on deaf ears. Reaching out in the face of indifference, trying to give people permission to care. Indifference is easy. It takes a lot of courage to fight back against it. So maybe we should stop and count ourselves lucky that there’s still someone out there fighting the good fight.
Well. . .
Did you miss anything?
Q U I C K:
Re-wathech the video again
and ask yourself the same question:
DID YOU MISS ANYTHING?
John Koenig’s new book:
DICTIONARY OF OBSCURE SORROWS
will invite you to look at things in a new way
B U T
John
or any book can’t make you
Recognize what you notice. . .
THAT’S
the secret power only you possess
(if you will not just recognize what you notice
BUT ACTUALLY IMPLEMENT IT)
c o n t i n u o u s l y
FRESH WORDS
Is it
T H A T
s i m p l e:
CHANGE YOUR WORDS
CHANGE YOUR WORLD
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm of the Day :
F I N D O U T
(say it differently)
USE FRESH WORDS
not to be heard
but experienced. . .
A BRUTAL COLD

The FORECASTS
are now becoming
NOW CASTS
and it’s freezing
l i t e r a l l y
with the high being a balmy -1 below zero
NOT COUNTING THE WIND CHILL. . .
and it on the cellular level has huge consequences
that we hopefully will never have to experience
but maybe need to understand any way

Here we are bracing for their coldest temperatures in decades today and the rest of this week with conditions predicted to feel like 50 degrees below zero or colder in areas of the Dakotas, Minnesota and Iowa, . Temperatures in Chicago are also predicted to dip below negative 25 for the first time since the mid-1980s, AccuWeather says.
Health officials have warned residents to stay indoors as much as possible, since the brutal cold in just minutes. But what actually happens to your body in the frigid air? TIME asked Dr. Ronald Furnival, a pediatric emergency physician and a professor at the University of Minnesota Medical School.
Almost as soon as you step outside, your body starts to siphon blood flow away from your extremities to focus on keeping your brain and internal organs warm. That’s why your fingers, toes and ears tend to get cold before your core, Furnival says.
“The blood vessels would start to contract and reduce blood flow” to areas including the face, ears, nose and fingers as a “defense mechanism” against extreme cold, Furnival says.
For most people, at least in the short-term, this adjustment is pretty harmless. But Furnival says people with preexisting heart conditions may be at risk of complications associated with these blood pressure changes, especially if they try to do strenuous outdoor activity like shoveling snow.
After a few minutes
In extreme cold, frostbite — or the freezing of skin and underlying tissues — can start to set in after just five to 15 minutes outside, Furnival says. The process can be especially quick if your skin is wet, or if you’re not properly covered up with hats, gloves and boots, in addition to warm clothing.
“Exposed extremities and digits and things can get frostbite fairly quickly,” Furnival says. “If there’s a strong wind and the weather’s pretty cold and the windchill is pretty low, then it goes a lot faster.” Risk of frostbite intensifies whenever the temperature drops below five degrees Fahrenheit, according to the Mayo Clinic, and becomes especially pronounced when cold and wind cause temperatures to fall below negative 16.6 degrees.
While mild to moderate frostbite can be reversed with warm water and blankets, severe frostbite can lead to permanent or long-lasting damage in the affected area. Signs of frostbite include a prickling feeling, followed by numbness and changes in the skin’s color and appearance. It may turn pale, red or blue, or take on a waxy look, according to the Mayo Clinic.
After 30 minutes
Furnival says signs of hypothermia, or a core body temperature that falls below 95 degrees, can surface after just 30 minutes to an hour in frigid temperatures.
“You start to have some decrease in your central temperature, so you can have some mild hypothermia to moderate hypothermia develop,” Furnival says. “People might start to feel confused and start to slur their words and start to have some neurologic changes. Some of the central core organs might be affected, so they might have problems with rapid heart rate and even worsening of the extremities, if blood flow is further reduced to those extremities.”
Furnival says individuals with preexisting medical conditions and children, who have less insulation, are at particular risk. But everybody, even otherwise healthy adults, should be aware of these dangers and take appropriate precautions, Furnival says.
“Cover up as well as you can with hats and gloves and mittens and boots and warm clothing, and then limit your exposure outside,” he recommends. “It’s okay to go outside, but you have to prepare for it, and you have to be coming in periodically to warm back up.”

Brutal Cold. . .
But is it the worst kind of
C O L D
experienced. . . ?

. . .Maybe the worst
the most
B R U T A L K I N D O F C O L D
comes from us
A L L
W H O H O L D
T H E L I G H T
W H O C O N T A I N S
T H E W A R M T H
and actually refuses to share it
or only shares it
with a
s e l e c t e d f e w

Can it be
T H A T
s i m p l e
o r
T H A T
d i f f i c u l t. . .

Maybe with the
C O L D
it’s not so much time to
B U N D L E U P
but a true opportunity to
O P E N U P

TO ALL
FOR ALL
BECAUSE OF ALL
Write to Jamie Ducharme at jamie.ducharme@time.com.
A STAR IS BORN
Top selling movie over the past couple of weeks. . .
A third remake of
A S T A R I S B O R N
The worst thing about
A S T A R I S B O R N
isn’t a movie critic’s bad review
or petty criticisms. . .
The worst thing about
A S T A R I S B O R N
is N O T
r e c o g n i z i n g
the STAR BORN IN YOU
never quite noticing
or passing over
d i s r e g a r d i n g
your talents
your dreams
your aspirations
your essence
Because of Someone Else’s
o p i n i o n
or lack of one
about youYou are not a firecracker
that’s mere lit and momentarily sparkles
or a nub of a candle almost burnt out
d i a m o n d
s h i n i n g a l w a y s
refusing to be seen
or s h o w n
. . .d i s p l a y e d
Pssssssssssssssssssssssssssssst:
O P E N Y O U R E Y E S
BE BLINDED
BY YOUR OWN
L I G H T
and then
S H I N E
e v e n b r i g h t e r
BIRTHDAY’D
A N O T H E R B I R T H D A Y. . .
s u r v i v e d
I almost always get a standing ovation during one of my presentations when I let the audience know:
“IF I WERE YOUR CEO, I WOULD MAKE IT MANDATORY, NON-NEGOTIABLE FOR EVERY EMPLOYEE TO NOT ONLY HAVE THEIR BIRTHDAY OFF, BUT THE DAY BEFORE AND AFTER; IN FACT, IF YOU WERE CAUGHT WORKING ON YOUR BIRTHDAY OR THE DAY’S BEFORE AND FOLLOWING, YOU WOULD BE FIRED ON THE SPOT; AND BEFORE YOU EVER BECAME AN EMPLOYEE OF MINE, YOU HAVE TO SIGN A DOCUMENT STATING YOU UNDERSTOOD THESE TERMS AND WOULD BE TERMINATED FOR VIOLATING THEM!”
W H Y ?
Because it’s more than a billion dollar loss each year that unscheduled PTO days are costing companies, agencies, and employers. What a better way to compensate each employee, NOT WITH A RAISE, BONUS, or even additional sick or additional time off, but by actually SHOWING THEM just how important you are to their respective organizations/agencies and to management in particular. What a lightning strike of PROACTIVITY in sensing, understanding and ACTING on how everyone should celebrate THEMSELVES. . .
A HAPPY, A VALIDATED, A AFFIMRED EMPLOYEE is a productive employee, right?
Well, it gets raved reviews and loud cheers and even a few job offers for me to become, at least, an interim CEO. . .
In that vein,
I did exactly that this past week as I celebrated
M E
I took a vacation from myself and
visited myself on in one fell swoop;
and it’s been great;
not only do I even more highly recommend it,
there’ll never be another time that I won’t REPEAT IT. . .
And. . .
What a FANTASTICAL DAY. Thanks for all of the warm Birthday wishes, thoughts and expressions. I am severely humbled and severely gratified by this magically enchanted life I live because of all of the wonderful people who surround me. Each and everyone of you prove unequivocally how greatly healed I am by RELATIONSHIPS and CONNECTION; these are most powerful mediums and medicines in their own rights. You inspire me to want to be better and to help me spend my days helping serve others, SERVE OTHERS. . .
You see, this makes it all
not just another BIRTHDAY. . .
everything we do
especially special days
are always more than j u s t
ANOTHER’S. . .
H o w. . .
How can we assure that anything goes beyond
J U S T A N O T H E R :
By intentionally making I T so;
As I travel towards 64 years on this little blue ball
each day I’ll attempt to be a
P E R S O N O F N O A G E
to protect myself from
JUST ANOTHER
I’ll notice what I recognize:
(and now invite you to do the same)
TEN THOUSAND FLOWERS IN SPRING, THE MOON IN THE AUTUMN,
A COOL BREEZE IN SUMMER, SNOW IN WINTER,
IF YOUR MIND ISN’T CLOUDED BY UNNECESSARY THINGS,
THIS IS BEST SEASON OF YOUR LIFE
By Wu Men (Hui-k’ai)
Kind of makes wearing the Birthday Sombrero Hat
s p e c i a l