Communication — Page 59

Look Up

June 2, 2014 By ChuckBehrens Leave a Comment

Twenty-years ago.

A blink of the eye, huh?

Well, then again, the eye doesn’t blink quite the same way as it did some twenty-years ago. . . .

The eye rarely meets another eye, at least for any real significant moments or for any length of time.

It’s ALL Changed, hasn’t it?

Don’t believe me?

WHAT ARE YOU READING RIGHT NOW AT THIS VERY MOMENT?

ON WHAT DEVICE ARE YOU ACTUALLY READING?

Hmmmmm…Living Proof, huh?

Just like the video, of which you might not have even watched the entire clip, makes a powerful point:
WE ARE JUST TOO FOCUSED ON WHAT NEEDS NOT OUR ENTIRE FOCUS–Almost every waking moment.

Can you do it?

Can you go a morning? An afternoon? Can you go out and sit through an entire meal, desert, a whole cup of coffee without texting or emailing or checking Face Book, Tweeting?

Again, what are you doing right now at this very moment–R E A D I N G–from what, where, how?

Here’s the deal…this is an emptied can of Shaving Cream that’s never going to be put back into the can from which it’s been drained.

So? Is that it? Are we just to deal with it? What can change, alter, make the best of it?

C O M P A S S I O N

Compassionate listening. Compassionate presence makes you LOOK UP more quickly, more sincerely, most assuredly than your next Text.

C O M P A S S I O N

It’s the Universal, most full proof, least evasive, most effective, non-pharmaicutical, non-addictive, all inclusive way of COMMUNICATING still known…just not always or in ALL WAYS practiced and even more sadly EXPERIENCED; that’s the Bad News.

GOOD NEWS?

YOU. . .you have the power to Change THAT!

How?

LOOK UP!

Pssssst: Don’t be surprised if you meet the eyes of SOMEONE who’s done the exact same thing as you have at the exact same time.

REPEAT OFTEN!

Sometimes DOWN is Really UP

May 19, 2014 By ChuckBehrens Leave a Comment

Sometimes, down is really up!

Interesting, huh?

Actually, it’s much more than THAT…much, much more than just interesting.

Anyone can play around with words.

Anyone can make words say or work for them in any particular way seen fit.

Anyone can say what they mean but often not mean what they say.

S E M A N T I C S. . . .

Hmmmmmm…THE STUDY OF MEANING IN LANGUAGE. IT CAN BE APPLIED TO ENTIRE TEXTS OR TO SINGLE WORDS….

or just a fancy way to say we can make words say what we want them to whether or not you take them that way or not. . .

or just a fancy way to say, “I DIDN’T MEAN THAT–YOU TOOK IT THE WRONG WAY!”

Sometimes, down is really up.

When you JUST hear with your ears. . .

When you Just hear with your eyes. . .

You just don’t hear everything that’s being said or meant; THAT just doesn’t make for a LOST GENERATION…it just makes for plain out being L O S T.

Psssst: Maybe the new DOWN actually is UP?

Try Listening with your heart!

If you speak from THAT PLACE, Semantics go out the door that is suddenly Hinge-LESS and Meaning is never MIS-understood.

You choose!

Sometimes Down is really UP. . . .

Shhhhhhh….

Huh? What’s that?

L I S T E N

Hearing What’s Not Said

March 31, 2014 By ChuckBehrens Leave a Comment

More often than the day comes after the night we LISTEN to REPLY!

We have excuses and opinions on “the matter,” but it still is a true statement that becomes more and more true with each passing conversation.

LISTENING for REPLYING sake–not for understanding, not for sympathy, not for empathy, not for compassion, and not for love–for Replying sake.

Even now as you’ve seen the short video and are reading these few fleeting words, good or bad, you’re formulating a response and defend it by thinking, “Everyone’s entitled to their opinion.”

Shhhhhhh. . .LISTEN.

It’s amazing what you’ll hear being said and intimated when your ears are open–fully–and your mouth is closed except for an occasional, “Hmmmm,” “Uhhh-huh,” “Really? Can you tell me more about that,” and actually MEAN IT!

It’s not about The Nail…Especially if Someone Else needs it not be.

Now, That’s Communication!

Dare to Hear what’s NOT being Said…even if it’s NOT the way you would actually say it or preferred it to be said to you.

It’s amazing just what will be communicated–both ways–on a road that was never even fully ONE WAY let alone a two or four-laner.

Hear it OUT!

When you Speak with your Ears, you might have Shouted the Loudest and Heard the most. . . .

The Biggest Bully Ever

March 24, 2014 By ChuckBehrens Leave a Comment

What was the worst job you ever had?

Is it your current one? Was it the very first job you had while in school, or just out of school?

Who was the worst Boss or Supervisor you’ve ever had?

Was your worst job connected in any way to the worst Boss?

Can you for a few moments, just pull out that Mirror you look into…you know, the one that doesn’t hang in your bathroom or on the back of the door or maybe on the wall in front of the door you walk out of every day?

No, pull out the mirror that doesn’t exist anywhere else, in any place in your home, except in your mind. It’s that mirror that you see yourself in honest-to-God-full-living-vivid-color which never distorts or dims your truest self.

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Your Move

January 10, 2014 By ChuckBehrens 2 Comments

A Simple game, huh?

But why, why is it we take the Simple and make it so complicated?

To make it more important? For it to be taken seriously? To take it more seriously?

Would it make the Checkers Plan inconceivable?

The plan can be implemented in any area of your life, especially the most troublesome ones.

Hit the Rewind button and go back with me for a little bit. When, exactly, was the the last time you actually played a spirited game of Checkers?

Yesterday or yesteryear?

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Face to Face (LESS)

December 30, 2013 By ChuckBehrens Leave a Comment

Hard to believe isn’t it?

GREATNESS meets us face to face and we Recognized it N O T more times than we actually ever do!

In fact, by now you actually know The Story:

A man sat a metro station in Washington, DC and started playing the violin; it was a cold January morning. He played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time, since it was rush hour, it was calculated that thousands of people went through the station, most of them on their way to work. No one actually stopped. A few slowed their paces; some children paused and had to be pulled away by their parents but no one really stopped, lingered, L I S T E N E D.

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F L A S H I N G

December 23, 2013 By ChuckBehrens Leave a Comment

Seriously. . .Whatever it is that causes you to break out, to Flash Mob in Song, may it happen unexpectedly and repeatedly and more, May you BE the Cause of IT to happen Unexpectedly and Repeatedly (For) to Others.

Discover your very best is so much more than a Season or an event, or an occurrence–a Happening!

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Listening NOT will Cost You

December 20, 2013 By ChuckBehrens Leave a Comment

I remember my Grandfather telling me when I was fairly young how important it was to buy good shoes and then maintain them. . .always make sure that there’s a shine on them, no matter what, he’d tell me before giving me a quarter to shine his shoes.

I blame him!

It was a late Friday afternoon and I was in a hurry, just an hour from conducting a funeral and my shoes had sprung a leak–A Big one!

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Feeder Goldfish ‘DO IT’

December 4, 2013 By ChuckBehrens Leave a Comment

It was purely a chance meeting–If there truly is such a thing.

Michelle Brown is a Team-Leader at Hospice of the Western Reserve. We ran into each other and after asking how we were doing and the recent Thanksgiving Holiday, she paused and then with a tear in her eye that was half-twinkle she told me about feeder goldfish. Hmmmmm…where can this possible go, right?

How about a Direct Hit to the Heart!

She told me that she and her husband didn’t go out and buy expensive, exotic fish, but ‘RESCUED’ feeder goldfish, who in this case weren’t in the greatest shape. They had somehow caught some kind of disease, that not only seemed to be killing them, one by one, but actually with fish parts falling off, were seemingly dying painfully.

In fact, just when she thought she was exceedingly adding to their suffering and was about to euthanize them she noticed something. . .something quite remarkable. The goldfish that were in the worst shape were actually being nurtured, by those who were in less bad shape. She stated that she saw how they would take turns, literally siding up besides the sickest and showing an overwhelming amount of compassion as they provided, dare I state it: PRESENCE!

Absurd?

I once saw two squirrels chasing one another and one inadvertently had run onto the street and got hit by a car even though it swerved to miss it. The car didn’t stop. I did. I actually saw the squirrel that was chasing the one now hit and killed, ran into the street and pull it off the road. I was paralyzed.

I’m sure there’s some YouTube/Google-ifric posts that would verify even much greater ANIMAL acts of Compassion.

Michelle wondered out loud about the WHY of it all…was she doing more harm than good, even though her intention was quite the opposite?

We then both wondered, maybe IT was to Teach. . .Teach her The Lesson, to Teach me the Lesson, to Teach You The Lesson, for you to Teach others The Lesson. . .I mean, isn’t that Life at it’s best and how it’s been handed down, benefited and handed down again?

It’s all about this Compassionate Presence isn’t it?

Maybe what SHOUTED OUT to me the Loudest is, if a Feeder Goldfish can show that kind of compassionate presence to one of it’s own, suffering and dying, then. . .then what about Me–You–Others?

Hmmmmmm for $10,000.00, Alex

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